Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Little girl problem

CharlieCW

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Hi there. Well I'll be brief now:

I know most of you guys are attracted to the physical characters of girls (face, body, etc.) However, I have never feel attracted in this way to girls, but rather, I am attracted on how the girl makes me feel, how she behaves with me and that she has an interesting personality. These are the things that start in me that "spark" that we call "attraction".

As a result, I usually start to feel attraction for girls after some while meeting them, most of the time after becoming friends with her. As you know, becoming friends with a girl is one of the first things you should avoid, but for me it is something almost inevitable. Only when I actually get to know her I can decide to start "feeling something" for her, or not.

In other words, I can only like a girl after I become friends with her (if she has great personality, how she makes me feel...)

How should I proceed in this case?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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CharlieCW

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I mean, that only I can start to feel attraction for a girl, only after I am already friends with her.

Most of the time, this is after two weeks, to one month of knowing the girl. In some cases, I have already up to one year of friendship with that girl, and I start liking her after we start hanging out more frequently and have good time.

What should I do then?
 

NorwegianDJ

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Turn her into your GF, if thats what you want. Request to hang out alone, do more kino, have a more sexual vibe.
Something else that could work is to have a sexual vibe with most of your female friends, they might be attracted to you, and it wont come off as incongruent when you try to convert her later.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Poonani Maker

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CharlieCW said:
How should I proceed in this case?
Only see them as physical objects you wanna fvck?
 
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