"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Little girl problem

CharlieCW

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Hi there. Well I'll be brief now:

I know most of you guys are attracted to the physical characters of girls (face, body, etc.) However, I have never feel attracted in this way to girls, but rather, I am attracted on how the girl makes me feel, how she behaves with me and that she has an interesting personality. These are the things that start in me that "spark" that we call "attraction".

As a result, I usually start to feel attraction for girls after some while meeting them, most of the time after becoming friends with her. As you know, becoming friends with a girl is one of the first things you should avoid, but for me it is something almost inevitable. Only when I actually get to know her I can decide to start "feeling something" for her, or not.

In other words, I can only like a girl after I become friends with her (if she has great personality, how she makes me feel...)

How should I proceed in this case?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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CharlieCW

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I mean, that only I can start to feel attraction for a girl, only after I am already friends with her.

Most of the time, this is after two weeks, to one month of knowing the girl. In some cases, I have already up to one year of friendship with that girl, and I start liking her after we start hanging out more frequently and have good time.

What should I do then?
 

NorwegianDJ

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Turn her into your GF, if thats what you want. Request to hang out alone, do more kino, have a more sexual vibe.
Something else that could work is to have a sexual vibe with most of your female friends, they might be attracted to you, and it wont come off as incongruent when you try to convert her later.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Poonani Maker

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CharlieCW said:
How should I proceed in this case?
Only see them as physical objects you wanna fvck?
 
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