Like you as a friend

[LeonSK]

so this girl told me she likes me as a friend... then I went cold on her. However she keeps texting me and calling me, wanting to hang out.

What should I do? Is she interested or not?

 

[DarkDetective50]

She's not interested. She wants validation and to use you as her emotional tissue paper.

 

[teddy]

Had same thing happen. I told her we couldn't be friends and she got pissed. The next week, I actually made plans to hang out with her again. She flaked a day later. Haven't talked to her since.

Just move on with your life. This will keep happening no matter what.

 

[LeonSK]

Had same thing happen. I told her we couldn't be friends and she got pissed. The next week, I actually made plans to hang out with her again. She flaked a day later. Haven't talked to her since.

Just move on with your life. This will keep happening no matter what.

Did she ask you why? What's ur response?

I am about to do the same. Wondering how straightforward I should phrase it.

 

[teddy]

Did she ask you why? What's ur response?

I am about to do the same. Wondering how straightforward I should phrase it.

I was completely straightforward. I've done both before, in terms of fading away or being straightforward. It doesn't matter what you do.

What matters is that you give up any hope of ever being with her. The sooner you free yourself from any specter of her, the better for you in the long run.

 

[TheGambino]

Means that she's not sexually attracted to you, she likes you're company but you don't make her wet.

But dude you should make a move when youre chilling with her.

It's not so hard, kino, escalate, tease and kiss her, believe me she will go along with it if she likes you and maybe afterwards be very confused or anything like that, you remain cool.

Your job is to escalate let her think about the 'relationship' wheter she sees you as a friend or not.

If she rejects you act like it didn't affect you, stay positive and then just go ghost or keep her around to introduce you to her friends. If being only friends with her hurts you, then move on and don't look back.

 

[teddy]

Means that she's not sexually attracted to you, she likes you're company but you don't make her wet.

But dude you should make a move when youre chilling with her.

It's not so hard, kino, escalate, tease and kiss her, believe me she will go along with it if she likes you and maybe afterwards be very confused or anything like that, you remain cool.

Your job is to escalate let her think about the 'relationship' wheter she sees you as a friend or not.

If she rejects you act like it didn't affect you, stay positive and then just go ghost or keep her around to introduce you to her friends. If being only friends with her hurts you, then move on and don't look back.

This is easier said than done for beginners. I don't know if OP is just starting out, but if he is, it's better to just start with women you don't know. The psychological factor isn't there.

And hopefully OP isn't like me and keeps picking girls with bfs.

 

[LeonSK]

This is easier said than done for beginners. I don't know if OP is just starting out, but if he is, it's better to just start with women you don't know. The psychological factor isn't there.

And hopefully OP isn't like me and keeps picking girls with bfs.

Yeah, I'm just starting out, ended a long-term relationship a couple months ago.

Gambino's idea sounds good! One more issue, she likes to drag a girlfriend of her while hanging out with me, it has happened twice. I hate it...

 

[TheGambino]

Ye that's true Teddy, the outcome could be very complicated and awkward if not done right lol. But I always vote for making moves in the friendzone, it's the only way to get out. Be sexual, if she has any interest in sleeping with you she will go along with it, just move it up slowly.

If you just started out and been friendzoned more often, then you should indeed find new girls and learn to be sexual from the start with them. If you make moves, you'll never get friendzoned, either she's in for the bang or she gives you mixed signals (=low interest) or even a rejection(so what just move on to the next..).

LeonSK, she brings a friend with her while hanging out, that's a big red flag.. You should def move on from this one, she does that to prevent you from making escalating moves on her.

 

[teddy]

Ye that's true Teddy, the outcome could be very complicated and awkward if not done right lol. But I always vote for making moves in the friendzone, it's the only way to get out. Be sexual, if she has any interest in sleeping with you she will go along with it, just move it up slowly.

If you just started out and been friendzoned more often, then you should indeed find new girls and learn to be sexual from the start with them. If you make moves, you'll never get friendzoned, either she's in for the bang or she gives you mixed signals (=low interest) or even a rejection(so what just move on to the next..).

LeonSK, she brings a friend with her while hanging out, that's a big red flag.. You should def move on from this one, she does that to prevent you from making escalating moves on her.

Yeah, I find that with people like me who lack experience, while what you're saying is correct, invariably me and other beginners won't be able to fully free ourselves from our mindframe and end up making the thing complicated and awkward. And because we're beginners, we just don't have a lot of plates spinning.

If we're not good at this, it's probably best to cut the cord and go ghost and forget about her. That way you can develop your skills with women you have no hang ups on. If you somehow run into her years from now, then you'll be able to approach her with your new skills and, if she's available, all to your advantage.

Obviously, with more experienced people, they have a lot of plates and little to lose, so there's nothing to lose with your approach, it's the best one.

 

[foreverAFC]

just curious but do you guys think females who are trying to turn a guy into an orbiter ever get truly turned on by him when she sees that he wont comply ?

 

[teddy]

just curious but do you guys think females who are trying to turn a guy into an orbiter ever get truly turned on by him when she sees that he wont comply ?

Maybe sometimes, but some females I've done this to just get angry at me and I never hear from them again.

 

[DonJuanit0]

Maybe sometimes, but some females I've done this to just get angry at me and I never hear from them again.

What if I told you they get angry to themselves for not making it?!?

Of course she can get turned on! She didn't make it, so you become a challenge! Obviously it will not always be the same but it can happen since you won over her tricks!