"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Lights on, lights off?

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Recently a question popped into my head....

The last few girls I've dated and had sex with. (In the light) Told me they never had sex in the light before. They said they always did it in a dark room, under the sheets, or bathroom with the lights off and ect.

So do woman differ whether they prefer a dark or light place when having sex? Or maybe a insecurity issue with their body so they like the dark?

Curious to hear what you guys think or had a similar situation.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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blackbelt2k

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i like lights on...always.. or at least dimly lit, so i can see what she's doing and make sure the hole is nice and no dirty
 

Dark Chivalry

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Or maybe a insecurity issue with their body so they like the dark?
This one.

I'm a very visual man, so I prefer a reasonable well lit room or daylight. Pitch dark, under the sheets is not much of a turn on for me. Hence, I go for women who are at ease with their bodies.
 

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What percentage of women do you guess like the lights off? If it's a good portion, then I don't think I'm going to have as much trouble with sex as I thought. I mean anybody can have sex in a dark room. What's there to be nervous about when you can barely see anything?
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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I'm a visual man myself. I prefer the lights on but in the dark im fine with too. But, like i was saying. The last few girls i've dated said they never have done it in the light before until with me. So is there a reason for this??
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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blueguy

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WTF? That sounds really strange.

ALL the girls I've dated have done it in light settings. What's fun about having sex in the dark? YOU CAN'T SEE ANYTHING~!!! :crazy:

If I dated a girl who said to me, "No, turn the lights off," I'd go crazy!
 
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