Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Elbow pains can take a while to get better. Usually it's some form of tendinitis or inflamation in a muslce that has built up from a long time of overstrain from an exercise. Where is the pain located when you get it? Outer, inner elbow? Is it in the lower part of the upper arm or upper part of the lower arm?Purefilth said:Ok, went to deadlift got 160 off the floor, but 170 still evades me :-(
Elbow is a pain - plenty of rest required so ill take a couple days off. I think my body deserves that much!
inner elbow lower part of upper arm. bottom of the inside tricep headLifeforce said:Elbow pains can take a while to get better. Usually it's some form of tendinitis or inflamation in a muslce that has built up from a long time of overstrain from an exercise. Where is the pain located when you get it? Outer, inner elbow? Is it in the lower part of the upper arm or upper part of the lower arm?
Rest is all good, but if it comes back you should definatly try to track the exercise which is causing the elbow pain. It might not always be the exercises where the pain manifest itself which is the responsible exercise. I had trouble with db presses but it turned out to be an inflammation in brachialis due to squatting lowbar.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
cheers for the thought - I can see how that would happen if you hold the bar low.Krueg said:I know some guys can get elbow pain from squatting. If the bar isn't completely resting on your traps/upper back and your holding some of the weight in your hands, that weight will transfer down to your elbows and cause some grief. Don't know if that is your case, but thought I'd just throw it out there.
Eye opening fugly. Honestly. I do like the pump off them but I guess ill have to lay off as I do hav e a little ache after hitting them hard.Fuglydude said:Hey Filth,
Good recent progress on everything. How are your knees holding up? I remember you had some knee issues last time I read your training log.
One thing that I'm seeing with your leg work is heavy ass leg extensions... I'm not the dogmatic type so I'm not gonna give you shiit for doing them. However, please be careful that you don't put excess stress on your knee with that movement and at the weights you are doing.
I've been lifting for a long time... coming up on 15 years! I've been around high level athletes (including some world class athletes and trainers), as well as bodybuilders/strippers/powerlifters and people who make money off their build/looks/athletic performance and NONE of them espouse a heavy leg extension. There's nothing wrong with doing them at the end of a leg day to get a good pump and cut up your quads... but I'd personally be wary of hurting yourself with the loads you are handling, especially with your history of knee soreness.
I dug up an old article for you... Has some good research articles incorporated into it and makes some valid points:
http://www.t-nation.com/free_online...ormance_repair/the_truth_about_leg_extensions
Otherwise keep it up man... Your training log kinda makes me wanna start my own! Its very motivating!!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
only one way to get good at pushups dude - thats to do them!TheStig said:I've always been impressed with your pushup routines....that's some serious muscular endurance. Every once in awhile I'll test and see how many push ups I can do in a minute, and depending on how good/bad of a day I'm having, it ranges from 40-60. Hell, I start hitting failure at around 30-35. Awesome dude, seriously
True truePurefilth said:only one way to get good at pushups dude - thats to do them!
I'm quite proud of my bench, luckily I get grounded and humbled from my meagre squat.Fuglydude said:Man, I'm jealous of your bench press... Those are some crazy push up numbers as well!
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.