You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Elbow pains can take a while to get better. Usually it's some form of tendinitis or inflamation in a muslce that has built up from a long time of overstrain from an exercise. Where is the pain located when you get it? Outer, inner elbow? Is it in the lower part of the upper arm or upper part of the lower arm?Purefilth said:Ok, went to deadlift got 160 off the floor, but 170 still evades me :-(
Elbow is a pain - plenty of rest required so ill take a couple days off. I think my body deserves that much!
inner elbow lower part of upper arm. bottom of the inside tricep headLifeforce said:Elbow pains can take a while to get better. Usually it's some form of tendinitis or inflamation in a muslce that has built up from a long time of overstrain from an exercise. Where is the pain located when you get it? Outer, inner elbow? Is it in the lower part of the upper arm or upper part of the lower arm?
Rest is all good, but if it comes back you should definatly try to track the exercise which is causing the elbow pain. It might not always be the exercises where the pain manifest itself which is the responsible exercise. I had trouble with db presses but it turned out to be an inflammation in brachialis due to squatting lowbar.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
cheers for the thought - I can see how that would happen if you hold the bar low.Krueg said:I know some guys can get elbow pain from squatting. If the bar isn't completely resting on your traps/upper back and your holding some of the weight in your hands, that weight will transfer down to your elbows and cause some grief. Don't know if that is your case, but thought I'd just throw it out there.
Eye opening fugly. Honestly. I do like the pump off them but I guess ill have to lay off as I do hav e a little ache after hitting them hard.Fuglydude said:Hey Filth,
Good recent progress on everything. How are your knees holding up? I remember you had some knee issues last time I read your training log.
One thing that I'm seeing with your leg work is heavy ass leg extensions... I'm not the dogmatic type so I'm not gonna give you shiit for doing them. However, please be careful that you don't put excess stress on your knee with that movement and at the weights you are doing.
I've been lifting for a long time... coming up on 15 years! I've been around high level athletes (including some world class athletes and trainers), as well as bodybuilders/strippers/powerlifters and people who make money off their build/looks/athletic performance and NONE of them espouse a heavy leg extension. There's nothing wrong with doing them at the end of a leg day to get a good pump and cut up your quads... but I'd personally be wary of hurting yourself with the loads you are handling, especially with your history of knee soreness.
I dug up an old article for you... Has some good research articles incorporated into it and makes some valid points:
http://www.t-nation.com/free_online...ormance_repair/the_truth_about_leg_extensions
Otherwise keep it up man... Your training log kinda makes me wanna start my own! Its very motivating!!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
only one way to get good at pushups dude - thats to do them!TheStig said:I've always been impressed with your pushup routines....that's some serious muscular endurance. Every once in awhile I'll test and see how many push ups I can do in a minute, and depending on how good/bad of a day I'm having, it ranges from 40-60. Hell, I start hitting failure at around 30-35. Awesome dude, seriously
True truePurefilth said:only one way to get good at pushups dude - thats to do them!
I'm quite proud of my bench, luckily I get grounded and humbled from my meagre squat.Fuglydude said:Man, I'm jealous of your bench press... Those are some crazy push up numbers as well!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.