That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Elbow pains can take a while to get better. Usually it's some form of tendinitis or inflamation in a muslce that has built up from a long time of overstrain from an exercise. Where is the pain located when you get it? Outer, inner elbow? Is it in the lower part of the upper arm or upper part of the lower arm?Purefilth said:Ok, went to deadlift got 160 off the floor, but 170 still evades me :-(
Elbow is a pain - plenty of rest required so ill take a couple days off. I think my body deserves that much!
inner elbow lower part of upper arm. bottom of the inside tricep headLifeforce said:Elbow pains can take a while to get better. Usually it's some form of tendinitis or inflamation in a muslce that has built up from a long time of overstrain from an exercise. Where is the pain located when you get it? Outer, inner elbow? Is it in the lower part of the upper arm or upper part of the lower arm?
Rest is all good, but if it comes back you should definatly try to track the exercise which is causing the elbow pain. It might not always be the exercises where the pain manifest itself which is the responsible exercise. I had trouble with db presses but it turned out to be an inflammation in brachialis due to squatting lowbar.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
cheers for the thought - I can see how that would happen if you hold the bar low.Krueg said:I know some guys can get elbow pain from squatting. If the bar isn't completely resting on your traps/upper back and your holding some of the weight in your hands, that weight will transfer down to your elbows and cause some grief. Don't know if that is your case, but thought I'd just throw it out there.
Eye opening fugly. Honestly. I do like the pump off them but I guess ill have to lay off as I do hav e a little ache after hitting them hard.Fuglydude said:Hey Filth,
Good recent progress on everything. How are your knees holding up? I remember you had some knee issues last time I read your training log.
One thing that I'm seeing with your leg work is heavy ass leg extensions... I'm not the dogmatic type so I'm not gonna give you shiit for doing them. However, please be careful that you don't put excess stress on your knee with that movement and at the weights you are doing.
I've been lifting for a long time... coming up on 15 years! I've been around high level athletes (including some world class athletes and trainers), as well as bodybuilders/strippers/powerlifters and people who make money off their build/looks/athletic performance and NONE of them espouse a heavy leg extension. There's nothing wrong with doing them at the end of a leg day to get a good pump and cut up your quads... but I'd personally be wary of hurting yourself with the loads you are handling, especially with your history of knee soreness.
I dug up an old article for you... Has some good research articles incorporated into it and makes some valid points:
http://www.t-nation.com/free_online...ormance_repair/the_truth_about_leg_extensions
Otherwise keep it up man... Your training log kinda makes me wanna start my own! Its very motivating!!
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
only one way to get good at pushups dude - thats to do them!TheStig said:I've always been impressed with your pushup routines....that's some serious muscular endurance. Every once in awhile I'll test and see how many push ups I can do in a minute, and depending on how good/bad of a day I'm having, it ranges from 40-60. Hell, I start hitting failure at around 30-35. Awesome dude, seriously
True truePurefilth said:only one way to get good at pushups dude - thats to do them!
I'm quite proud of my bench, luckily I get grounded and humbled from my meagre squat.Fuglydude said:Man, I'm jealous of your bench press... Those are some crazy push up numbers as well!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.