"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Lie-Detector Test
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Mr.Positive
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Yes, But Whats wrong with hiding the truth about their past ?Mr.Positive said:
Sure if you need to take a lie detector test to trust anyone i think you both have a big problem.
Who wants to admit being a cronic mastubater, and have shagged the ugliest girl in school ?
all you have to do with women is get them drunk and then ask them questions.
when a chic is sh*t faced (note, not just buzzed of one beer, but fairly hammered) she will tell you everything about herself.
unfortunately though, most of the times that women are smashed so is the guy, so he isn't in the frame of mind to question her.
but if you really want to know all the deep darkest secrets of a chic, then all you gotta do is get her drunk (while staying relatively sober yourself). once she's three sheets to the wind ask her whatever you want. she'll answer honestly and won't even remember it the next day.
she might remember that you talked, but trust me, all the repressed sh*t she tells you (like the time she blew two guys at once) she won't remember telling you (the more repressed the thing she tells you when drunk, the less likely she will remember telling you the next day. just a wierd thing about the mind).
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
squirrels
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What do you want to know...whether she has f'd or fooled around with anyone beside you? Just assume "yes". At this age, if she's attractive, chances are she's messed around with SOMEONE before you. And with your insecure attitude, chances are she'll be messing around with someone AFTER you as well.Unprez said:
You have a couple of good decades to live.. enjoy it, let it be fun and not spent in useless anxiety.
Mr.Positive
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Unprez said:
A woman's past to me, I don't want to know. I'm concerned with how she treats me, and whether or not we have established trust together.
I was giving you the benefit of the doubt, that you may be with a woman that has you soo paranoid, that you would take comfort in forcing her to take a lie detector test.
But you have proven me wrong, the issue is with YOU, not her. You are the one with insecurity issues, and unless you work on this, you will never trust any woman.
There's a whole thread on dealing with a woman's past that may help..
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=133514
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
But what if someone feels this way about women in general?Mr.Positive said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Ol'BlueEyes
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I.A.F.Y.B.
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Now, my b!tch was honest and told me about her past when I wanted to know. Somethings I didn't want to hear. Maybe, you just need to communicate with her better.