"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Lie-Detector Test
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Mr.Positive
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Yes, But Whats wrong with hiding the truth about their past ?Mr.Positive said:
Sure if you need to take a lie detector test to trust anyone i think you both have a big problem.
Who wants to admit being a cronic mastubater, and have shagged the ugliest girl in school ?
all you have to do with women is get them drunk and then ask them questions.
when a chic is sh*t faced (note, not just buzzed of one beer, but fairly hammered) she will tell you everything about herself.
unfortunately though, most of the times that women are smashed so is the guy, so he isn't in the frame of mind to question her.
but if you really want to know all the deep darkest secrets of a chic, then all you gotta do is get her drunk (while staying relatively sober yourself). once she's three sheets to the wind ask her whatever you want. she'll answer honestly and won't even remember it the next day.
she might remember that you talked, but trust me, all the repressed sh*t she tells you (like the time she blew two guys at once) she won't remember telling you (the more repressed the thing she tells you when drunk, the less likely she will remember telling you the next day. just a wierd thing about the mind).
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
squirrels
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What do you want to know...whether she has f'd or fooled around with anyone beside you? Just assume "yes". At this age, if she's attractive, chances are she's messed around with SOMEONE before you. And with your insecure attitude, chances are she'll be messing around with someone AFTER you as well.Unprez said:
You have a couple of good decades to live.. enjoy it, let it be fun and not spent in useless anxiety.
Mr.Positive
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Unprez said:
A woman's past to me, I don't want to know. I'm concerned with how she treats me, and whether or not we have established trust together.
I was giving you the benefit of the doubt, that you may be with a woman that has you soo paranoid, that you would take comfort in forcing her to take a lie detector test.
But you have proven me wrong, the issue is with YOU, not her. You are the one with insecurity issues, and unless you work on this, you will never trust any woman.
There's a whole thread on dealing with a woman's past that may help..
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=133514
Francisco d'Anconia
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But what if someone feels this way about women in general?Mr.Positive said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Ol'BlueEyes
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I.A.F.Y.B.
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Now, my b!tch was honest and told me about her past when I wanted to know. Somethings I didn't want to hear. Maybe, you just need to communicate with her better.