"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Lie-Detector Test
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Mr.Positive
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Yes, But Whats wrong with hiding the truth about their past ?Mr.Positive said:
Sure if you need to take a lie detector test to trust anyone i think you both have a big problem.
Who wants to admit being a cronic mastubater, and have shagged the ugliest girl in school ?
all you have to do with women is get them drunk and then ask them questions.
when a chic is sh*t faced (note, not just buzzed of one beer, but fairly hammered) she will tell you everything about herself.
unfortunately though, most of the times that women are smashed so is the guy, so he isn't in the frame of mind to question her.
but if you really want to know all the deep darkest secrets of a chic, then all you gotta do is get her drunk (while staying relatively sober yourself). once she's three sheets to the wind ask her whatever you want. she'll answer honestly and won't even remember it the next day.
she might remember that you talked, but trust me, all the repressed sh*t she tells you (like the time she blew two guys at once) she won't remember telling you (the more repressed the thing she tells you when drunk, the less likely she will remember telling you the next day. just a wierd thing about the mind).
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
squirrels
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What do you want to know...whether she has f'd or fooled around with anyone beside you? Just assume "yes". At this age, if she's attractive, chances are she's messed around with SOMEONE before you. And with your insecure attitude, chances are she'll be messing around with someone AFTER you as well.Unprez said:
You have a couple of good decades to live.. enjoy it, let it be fun and not spent in useless anxiety.
Mr.Positive
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Unprez said:
A woman's past to me, I don't want to know. I'm concerned with how she treats me, and whether or not we have established trust together.
I was giving you the benefit of the doubt, that you may be with a woman that has you soo paranoid, that you would take comfort in forcing her to take a lie detector test.
But you have proven me wrong, the issue is with YOU, not her. You are the one with insecurity issues, and unless you work on this, you will never trust any woman.
There's a whole thread on dealing with a woman's past that may help..
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=133514
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
But what if someone feels this way about women in general?Mr.Positive said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Ol'BlueEyes
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I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Now, my b!tch was honest and told me about her past when I wanted to know. Somethings I didn't want to hear. Maybe, you just need to communicate with her better.