"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Lie-Detector Test
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Mr.Positive
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Yes, But Whats wrong with hiding the truth about their past ?Mr.Positive said:
Sure if you need to take a lie detector test to trust anyone i think you both have a big problem.
Who wants to admit being a cronic mastubater, and have shagged the ugliest girl in school ?
all you have to do with women is get them drunk and then ask them questions.
when a chic is sh*t faced (note, not just buzzed of one beer, but fairly hammered) she will tell you everything about herself.
unfortunately though, most of the times that women are smashed so is the guy, so he isn't in the frame of mind to question her.
but if you really want to know all the deep darkest secrets of a chic, then all you gotta do is get her drunk (while staying relatively sober yourself). once she's three sheets to the wind ask her whatever you want. she'll answer honestly and won't even remember it the next day.
she might remember that you talked, but trust me, all the repressed sh*t she tells you (like the time she blew two guys at once) she won't remember telling you (the more repressed the thing she tells you when drunk, the less likely she will remember telling you the next day. just a wierd thing about the mind).
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
squirrels
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What do you want to know...whether she has f'd or fooled around with anyone beside you? Just assume "yes". At this age, if she's attractive, chances are she's messed around with SOMEONE before you. And with your insecure attitude, chances are she'll be messing around with someone AFTER you as well.Unprez said:
You have a couple of good decades to live.. enjoy it, let it be fun and not spent in useless anxiety.
Mr.Positive
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Unprez said:
A woman's past to me, I don't want to know. I'm concerned with how she treats me, and whether or not we have established trust together.
I was giving you the benefit of the doubt, that you may be with a woman that has you soo paranoid, that you would take comfort in forcing her to take a lie detector test.
But you have proven me wrong, the issue is with YOU, not her. You are the one with insecurity issues, and unless you work on this, you will never trust any woman.
There's a whole thread on dealing with a woman's past that may help..
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=133514
Francisco d'Anconia
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But what if someone feels this way about women in general?Mr.Positive said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ol'BlueEyes
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I.A.F.Y.B.
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Now, my b!tch was honest and told me about her past when I wanted to know. Somethings I didn't want to hear. Maybe, you just need to communicate with her better.