TurboLover
Senior Don Juan
Women who carry mace.

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Now that's nasty...:moon:Originally posted by JohnJones
Girls who wear thongs but don't know that they have a@@ hair that pokes out.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I can understand many of the things you said up there, but what's so bad about vegetarians?Originally posted by So Many Ways
Major turnoffs/deal breakers:
1. Tattoos/body piercings, especially the broads that get someones name tattooed on their body and titty tattoos, disgusting. This is my number 1 turnoff.
2. Fat, for obvious reasons. If I see a fat chick naked, it's just...ugh
3. Single mothers, i ain't tryin to play daddy to kids that ain't mine, i don't want kids of my own for that matter
4. Overly religious/Christian fundamentalist. I have very strong views on organized religion which I'd rather not get into here.
5. Chicks who make themselves look ugly on purpose. It's hard to explain, but you know the type of broads that wear those thick black plastic glasses or dye their hair some weird color or cut it real short or do some other things to their appearance that just ruins any attractive or feminine appeal they once had. I never really did understand that. I hope I make sense here. It's somewhat related to turnofffnumber 1.
6. Chicks with excessive funk such as bad breath, body odor, just poor hygiene in general.
7. Bad Attitude/No sense of humor. I think that's fairly obvious.
Here are other turnoffs that aren't as severe as the 7 mentioned above
Big bolted on tits. There's a silicon epidemic going on in southern california.
Chicks who don't drink, ever.
Vegetarians
Chicks with tons of guy friends
Airheads/space cadets
Clingy/Needy chicks
****teases
Women who have issues with my choice of friends
Well, it's matter of being into the same things. I once dated a woman who didn't drink, ever and was a vegetarian at the same time. After that experience, I told myself never again. She was cool and all, but it was quickly becoming an issue.Originally posted by Abbott
I can understand many of the things you said up there, but what's so bad about vegetarians?
You're the only person I know of who's said that, so I just had to ask.
Ben
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Understand that I'm in Minnesota and:
- Overly soft, shapely and feminine here look like the Michelin Man and are known in other states as "Snow Cows."
- Dating overly emotional and sentimental women takes a lot of work bolstering her self esteem.
- Overly submissive women tend to get boring possibly causing guys to stray. That submissivness is known as "Minnesota Nice" around here but it's just a lame front for passive agression.
- Over complimentary women don't seem sincere, plus in the back of your mind you wonder if she just wants something.
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.