CanuckinSK
Don Juan
Attractive people get compliments all the time. Why inflate their egos even more?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You mean neg her? What a novel idea! Sheesh...Charm&Style said:you have to put a little twist on how you are going to tell them
i.e. "out of all the women ive seen and been with, for a chick thats 5 or 10 lbs over you're pretty cute"
i.e2 "you know...you look amazing if you fix your make up"
these are prbly poor examples, but what im getting at is if she is hot, she knows it, thus put a little twist on how you are going to tell her. After all we love a complement here and there.
Yawn... (No offence)Aspiring_DJ said:What about "you look good today" ? Because then it only is valid for that day and you can use it sparingly.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You know, i'm going to use that. Modified:Aspiring_DJ said:What about "you look good today" ? Because then it only is valid for that day and you can use it sparingly.
It could work if the two of you are familiar with one another where you can exchange negs with one another in a playful way (that's considered flirting). Good creativity btw.hyperactive said:You know, i'm going to use that. Modified:
"You look good today, but hey, I don't know what you will look like tomorrow."
Or:
"You look good today, I wonder what you look like in the morning."
Those types compliments might go a long way.