CanuckinSK
Don Juan
Attractive people get compliments all the time. Why inflate their egos even more?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You mean neg her? What a novel idea! Sheesh...Charm&Style said:you have to put a little twist on how you are going to tell them
i.e. "out of all the women ive seen and been with, for a chick thats 5 or 10 lbs over you're pretty cute"
i.e2 "you know...you look amazing if you fix your make up"
these are prbly poor examples, but what im getting at is if she is hot, she knows it, thus put a little twist on how you are going to tell her. After all we love a complement here and there.
Yawn... (No offence)Aspiring_DJ said:What about "you look good today" ? Because then it only is valid for that day and you can use it sparingly.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You know, i'm going to use that. Modified:Aspiring_DJ said:What about "you look good today" ? Because then it only is valid for that day and you can use it sparingly.
It could work if the two of you are familiar with one another where you can exchange negs with one another in a playful way (that's considered flirting). Good creativity btw.hyperactive said:You know, i'm going to use that. Modified:
"You look good today, but hey, I don't know what you will look like tomorrow."
Or:
"You look good today, I wonder what you look like in the morning."
Those types compliments might go a long way.