CanuckinSK
Don Juan
Attractive people get compliments all the time. Why inflate their egos even more?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You mean neg her? What a novel idea! Sheesh...Charm&Style said:you have to put a little twist on how you are going to tell them
i.e. "out of all the women ive seen and been with, for a chick thats 5 or 10 lbs over you're pretty cute"
i.e2 "you know...you look amazing if you fix your make up"
these are prbly poor examples, but what im getting at is if she is hot, she knows it, thus put a little twist on how you are going to tell her. After all we love a complement here and there.
Yawn... (No offence)Aspiring_DJ said:What about "you look good today" ? Because then it only is valid for that day and you can use it sparingly.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You know, i'm going to use that. Modified:Aspiring_DJ said:What about "you look good today" ? Because then it only is valid for that day and you can use it sparingly.
It could work if the two of you are familiar with one another where you can exchange negs with one another in a playful way (that's considered flirting). Good creativity btw.hyperactive said:You know, i'm going to use that. Modified:
"You look good today, but hey, I don't know what you will look like tomorrow."
Or:
"You look good today, I wonder what you look like in the morning."
Those types compliments might go a long way.