CanuckinSK
Don Juan
Attractive people get compliments all the time. Why inflate their egos even more?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You mean neg her? What a novel idea! Sheesh...Charm&Style said:you have to put a little twist on how you are going to tell them
i.e. "out of all the women ive seen and been with, for a chick thats 5 or 10 lbs over you're pretty cute"
i.e2 "you know...you look amazing if you fix your make up"
these are prbly poor examples, but what im getting at is if she is hot, she knows it, thus put a little twist on how you are going to tell her. After all we love a complement here and there.
Yawn... (No offence)Aspiring_DJ said:What about "you look good today" ? Because then it only is valid for that day and you can use it sparingly.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You know, i'm going to use that. Modified:Aspiring_DJ said:What about "you look good today" ? Because then it only is valid for that day and you can use it sparingly.
It could work if the two of you are familiar with one another where you can exchange negs with one another in a playful way (that's considered flirting). Good creativity btw.hyperactive said:You know, i'm going to use that. Modified:
"You look good today, but hey, I don't know what you will look like tomorrow."
Or:
"You look good today, I wonder what you look like in the morning."
Those types compliments might go a long way.