CanuckinSK
Don Juan
Attractive people get compliments all the time. Why inflate their egos even more?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You mean neg her? What a novel idea! Sheesh...Charm&Style said:you have to put a little twist on how you are going to tell them
i.e. "out of all the women ive seen and been with, for a chick thats 5 or 10 lbs over you're pretty cute"
i.e2 "you know...you look amazing if you fix your make up"
these are prbly poor examples, but what im getting at is if she is hot, she knows it, thus put a little twist on how you are going to tell her. After all we love a complement here and there.
Yawn... (No offence)Aspiring_DJ said:What about "you look good today" ? Because then it only is valid for that day and you can use it sparingly.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You know, i'm going to use that. Modified:Aspiring_DJ said:What about "you look good today" ? Because then it only is valid for that day and you can use it sparingly.
It could work if the two of you are familiar with one another where you can exchange negs with one another in a playful way (that's considered flirting). Good creativity btw.hyperactive said:You know, i'm going to use that. Modified:
"You look good today, but hey, I don't know what you will look like tomorrow."
Or:
"You look good today, I wonder what you look like in the morning."
Those types compliments might go a long way.