Usually when a girl is really into you, you have to go for it immediately before she starts to think you don't know how to take a hint, or that you aren't attracted to her, etc. Does anyone have any experience with leaving that window open for a couple of weeks though? This girl is trying to text me, added me on facebook, keeps inviting me out but I'm really busy for the next few weeks. Was thinking of lying low until halloween weekend but I don't know if I can do that because she keeps fking texting me and if I ignore it long enough I'm sure she'll be calling me up soon. Gotta maintain the window of opportunity without getting too comfortable.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
leaving the "window of opportunity" open
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
That's actually a good problem to have.
You have to strike while the iron is hot in most cases. The question is how hot is the iron and how much longer will it stay hot? Hard to say.
Like betheman said, you're too busy to bone?? If I want to fvck a girl bad enough, I don't care how busy I am. I'll have her come over at 3am, fvck til 5, then get up at 8 for work and down a pot of coffee. Gotta do what you gotta do.
Like betheman said, you're too busy to bone?? If I want to fvck a girl bad enough, I don't care how busy I am. I'll have her come over at 3am, fvck til 5, then get up at 8 for work and down a pot of coffee. Gotta do what you gotta do.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It is indeed a good problem to have.
But seriously, I have a busy social calendar, a couple of huge deadlines, and some personal projects I have to work on. I just want to know what you guys do when the iron is burning hot and you just want to prolong it a little longer. I've had this problem before a few times and usually it works out just fine, but this girl is blowing up my phone like crazy.
But seriously, I have a busy social calendar, a couple of huge deadlines, and some personal projects I have to work on. I just want to know what you guys do when the iron is burning hot and you just want to prolong it a little longer. I've had this problem before a few times and usually it works out just fine, but this girl is blowing up my phone like crazy.