Usually when a girl is really into you, you have to go for it immediately before she starts to think you don't know how to take a hint, or that you aren't attracted to her, etc. Does anyone have any experience with leaving that window open for a couple of weeks though? This girl is trying to text me, added me on facebook, keeps inviting me out but I'm really busy for the next few weeks. Was thinking of lying low until halloween weekend but I don't know if I can do that because she keeps fking texting me and if I ignore it long enough I'm sure she'll be calling me up soon. Gotta maintain the window of opportunity without getting too comfortable.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
leaving the "window of opportunity" open
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
That's actually a good problem to have.
You have to strike while the iron is hot in most cases. The question is how hot is the iron and how much longer will it stay hot? Hard to say.
Like betheman said, you're too busy to bone?? If I want to fvck a girl bad enough, I don't care how busy I am. I'll have her come over at 3am, fvck til 5, then get up at 8 for work and down a pot of coffee. Gotta do what you gotta do.
Like betheman said, you're too busy to bone?? If I want to fvck a girl bad enough, I don't care how busy I am. I'll have her come over at 3am, fvck til 5, then get up at 8 for work and down a pot of coffee. Gotta do what you gotta do.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It is indeed a good problem to have.
But seriously, I have a busy social calendar, a couple of huge deadlines, and some personal projects I have to work on. I just want to know what you guys do when the iron is burning hot and you just want to prolong it a little longer. I've had this problem before a few times and usually it works out just fine, but this girl is blowing up my phone like crazy.
But seriously, I have a busy social calendar, a couple of huge deadlines, and some personal projects I have to work on. I just want to know what you guys do when the iron is burning hot and you just want to prolong it a little longer. I've had this problem before a few times and usually it works out just fine, but this girl is blowing up my phone like crazy.