Usually when a girl is really into you, you have to go for it immediately before she starts to think you don't know how to take a hint, or that you aren't attracted to her, etc. Does anyone have any experience with leaving that window open for a couple of weeks though? This girl is trying to text me, added me on facebook, keeps inviting me out but I'm really busy for the next few weeks. Was thinking of lying low until halloween weekend but I don't know if I can do that because she keeps fking texting me and if I ignore it long enough I'm sure she'll be calling me up soon. Gotta maintain the window of opportunity without getting too comfortable.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
leaving the "window of opportunity" open
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
That's actually a good problem to have.
You have to strike while the iron is hot in most cases. The question is how hot is the iron and how much longer will it stay hot? Hard to say.
Like betheman said, you're too busy to bone?? If I want to fvck a girl bad enough, I don't care how busy I am. I'll have her come over at 3am, fvck til 5, then get up at 8 for work and down a pot of coffee. Gotta do what you gotta do.
Like betheman said, you're too busy to bone?? If I want to fvck a girl bad enough, I don't care how busy I am. I'll have her come over at 3am, fvck til 5, then get up at 8 for work and down a pot of coffee. Gotta do what you gotta do.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
It is indeed a good problem to have.
But seriously, I have a busy social calendar, a couple of huge deadlines, and some personal projects I have to work on. I just want to know what you guys do when the iron is burning hot and you just want to prolong it a little longer. I've had this problem before a few times and usually it works out just fine, but this girl is blowing up my phone like crazy.
But seriously, I have a busy social calendar, a couple of huge deadlines, and some personal projects I have to work on. I just want to know what you guys do when the iron is burning hot and you just want to prolong it a little longer. I've had this problem before a few times and usually it works out just fine, but this girl is blowing up my phone like crazy.