"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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pyros

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I went to watch a show with this female friend of mine who is 23. We were getting to the place and she was "leading us" saying where to turn, which street to take, etc.. We argued a bit about which way was faster, but ok.

She wanted to sit really close to the stage, I didn't mind, but I did not have the urge to sit that close, so we sat where she wanted.

When it finished, we went to grab a bite. We were walking down the street and she suggested another route cause it was a "shortcut", I declined. After a few minutes she suggested another "shortcut", started to complain so I agreed.

Then we saw some restaurant and I suggested to sit there but she said she did not like that type of food, so we kept walking. In the end we agreed to sit in another place that we both liked, after she rejected a few more options...

Later on, when we had to go home, I was not totally sure which way to take so she suggested one, I checked it on my phone and I said that we should take a different one. She complained and insisted that she was right. I started to get nervous cause I was not sure. Anyway, I said: "we're going this way", she complained again but she followed me.
In the end I confused some street with another one, but we got to my car anyway.

On the way back, she had to question if we were going the right route eventhough I was damn sure cause I go that way everyday...


So, my question is, should I lead all the time? In this case I got annoyed because she wanted to lead us all the time. Other women just follow my lead and do not complain.

I have to point that she is just my friend, no plate, no sex, just friendship.

P.S.
I think I am too flexible, you know? cause I do not really care were to sit, or if we take this street or the other one which takes us 30 seconds less.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Bingo-Player

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i think your reading too far into it

that whole date just sounds full of pointless bickering

enforce the decisions that actually matter , leave her fuss over the ones that do not
 

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If this woman is your friend, practice leading women when you're out with her. She sounds like a control freak. So as you do better with her, dealing with other women should be easy.

They telling her 'I got this' when she starts pushing. But make sure that you do 'got this'. Leading implies know in what you are doing. I'd you lead and get lost, you are not leading.
 

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I wouldn't worry about it either way. Sounds like she was having a bad evening or something, unless that's really her personality all the time.

But, it is a good question overall. I've known some real flakes that don't want you to do anything for them, want to control how things are done, then turn around and complain that you're not being assertive enough. On really minor, dumb crap too. Years ago I opened a door for this chick as we were on our way out to lunch, and you'd have thought I just took away their right to vote. 'I can open my own door, thank you very much.' My most recent ex objected to me paying when we went out, along with other stuff. They're nuts, the lot of them.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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pyros said:
I have to point that she is just my friend, no plate, no sex, just friendship.
Glad she's your friend; would hate to see how she'd treat you if she weren't.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Glad she's your friend; would hate to see how she'd treat you if she weren't.
Where have you been hiding?
 

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Could always say "you seem to be a pig headed bruit just like me. How about we settle this decision with a coin toss. Heads we go my way, tails we don't go yours". Joke about it then do a real coin toss and act on what it says.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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