"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Leadership:
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- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
djSlvt
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Astrology has a lot to do with it, more than your gens have to do with it. If you study world's greatest leaders, astrologically they are setup for it.
A lot of people would call Odysseus in the Illiad a great leader. But to me he wasn't. He was a great warrior and was associated with greatness, but not a great leader. At the end of the journey, all his men die, often by poor decisions made by him. He was great, but not a great leader.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
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djSlvt said:
I just gave my magic 8-ball two shakes after asking if DJSLVT was a complete fvcktard who doesn't have any idea what he's saying and you know what the answer was?
ABSOLUTELY
Astrology is what people in pre WWII believed in. Hitler, Reagan, Phyllis Diller. They all believed in that sh!t and look where it got them . . .
I will say though, that asking people on an online forum probably isn't the best way to become a leader, if you catch my drift. Only way to do it is to go out and lead something. Lead yourself if you have to, eventually someone will follow... unless you just suck, anyway.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
You don't become a leader, you just lead. Do your damned job the best you can and people will pick up on you knowing your ****.
When you know your ****, and you don't get greedy and hide it away, like a nice little secret to making the day go faster, or a sweet joke that would make everything better, but instead you share that stuff, like it doesn't matter. That makes you more of a leader, because at least you're putting yourself out there.
So yeah, work hard is number 1. You can be the leader of the slackers, but eventually you realize that isn't your goal. So number 2, have a goal. Work towards your goal, but you'll eventually realize that you want to have fun sometimes. So number 3, have fun while you work. All work and no play makes for a very dull boy, and you don't want people you're leading walking away from you because you're too strict.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
www.fiu.edu/~armyrotc/adv_camp.htm
THE LEADERSHIP ASSESSMENT PROGRAM (LAP)
LAP is a performance based assessment used for leadership development and selection. It is based on an extensive job analysis of the leadership dimensions which are important for successful performance as a second lieutenant. The LAP provides a technology for the assessment of 16 leadership dimensions in campus or camp activity, planned or unplanned, structured or unstructured training activities. Thus, performance will be evaluated and potential can be developed in stressful and rapidly changing conditions using performance-based assessments.
a. The following sixteen (16) leadership dimensions (job critical behaviors) are used to gauge your current abilities and future potential:
1) Communications.
a) Oral Communication: The ability to express oneself effectively in individual or group situations; includes gestures and other nonverbal communication.
b) Written Communication: The skill required to express ideas clearly, in writing, using good grammatical form.
c) Oral Presentation: The ability to present ideas or tasks to an individual or group when given time for preparation; includes gestures and other nonverbal communication.
2) Personal Motivational behavior.
a) Initiative: The discipline that requires attempting to influence events to achieve goals beyond those called for; originating action; self-starting rather than passive acceptance.
3) Interpersonal behavior.
a) Sensitivity: Those actions that indicate a consideration for the feeling and needs of others.
b) Influence: The art of using appropriate interpersonal styles and methods in guiding subordinates, peers, superiors, or groups toward task accomplishment.
4) Administrative skills.
a) Planning and organizing: The ability to establish a course of action for self or others to accomplish a specific goal; planning proper assignments or personnel and appropriate allocation of resources.
b) Delegation: The ability to use subordinates effectively; the allocation of decision-making and other responsibilities to the appropriate subordinates.
c) Administrative Control: The ability to establish procedures for monitoring and regulating processes, tasks, or activities of subordinates and job activities and responsibilities; to monitor actively the results of delegated assignments or projects.
5) Decision making skills.
a) Problem Analysis: The skill required to identify a problem, secure information relevant to the problem, relate problem data from different sources, and determine possible causes of problems.
b) Judgment: The ability to develop alternative courses of action based on logical assumptions that reflect factual information.
c) Decisiveness: The readiness to make decisions renders judgments, take action or commit oneself.
6) Field skills.
a) Technical/Tactical Competence: The ability to use technical and tactical proficiency to accomplish tasks to specified standards; includes demonstrated understanding of technical information.
b) Physical Stamina: Demonstrated operational endurance under stressful situations.
c) Mission Accomplishment: Ability to complete assigned tasks according to specified standards and within time allotments.
d) Followership: Willingness to cooperate in the accomplishment of mission and exhibit high degree of teamwork and cohesion.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.