A friend and I took a lake trip a few hours from home over the weekend. We met with one of his coworkers and a bunch of others. I spot an absolute dime of a 21 year old who happens to be staying with my friends coworker. I engage, talk to her a bit, apply/receive kino for quite some time. Mind you, this girl is far out of my league. I'm a 6-7 at best, body maybe an 8-9. She's easy 9.5. Didn't think I stood a chance. I get her to stay in my camper the 2 nights we stayed at the lake and smashed. I don't notice a high IL now however after we have split ways. I'm 6 hours from where she lives, which obviously poses a problem. To be honest I feel like I've been struck with oneitis even though I have several other chicks I see regularly. I know I'm putting her on a pedestal but damn. She cooked for me, cleaned for me, had interesting convos the whole trip when we talked, sex was divine. It was like I finally found the chick a Don Juan is in search of his whole life and then she's gone as quickly as she came in. I didn't show any neediness, but I still showed interest in her. i don't necessarily have a question about the situation, but it sucks. after quite a while of being single rummaging through the pile of uninteresting women to find a quality dime you know was just a one time thing. I guess at the very least I've now had more experience with high quality women.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Lake girl.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You are right.
Von
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And remember... you made it happen once... you can do it again.... with ANOTHER girl, same HB level
Building_and_Loan
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Don't try to make this something it isn't, because you were probably nothing more than a good time for her. She's just enjoying being single.
Just be proud of yourself, enjoy the ego boost, and play it cool so you can smash in the future if the opportunity presents itself.
A lot of times guys fall in love or get oneitis with a girl they met on vacation, which is just a big mistake. Let it be an awesome memory and that's it.
Just be proud of yourself, enjoy the ego boost, and play it cool so you can smash in the future if the opportunity presents itself.
A lot of times guys fall in love or get oneitis with a girl they met on vacation, which is just a big mistake. Let it be an awesome memory and that's it.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Wait, she cooked and cleaned for you???
marmel75
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You young guys are way, way too impressed with the most basic sh!t.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Says something to you about our current generation.....