A friend and I took a lake trip a few hours from home over the weekend. We met with one of his coworkers and a bunch of others. I spot an absolute dime of a 21 year old who happens to be staying with my friends coworker. I engage, talk to her a bit, apply/receive kino for quite some time. Mind you, this girl is far out of my league. I'm a 6-7 at best, body maybe an 8-9. She's easy 9.5. Didn't think I stood a chance. I get her to stay in my camper the 2 nights we stayed at the lake and smashed. I don't notice a high IL now however after we have split ways. I'm 6 hours from where she lives, which obviously poses a problem. To be honest I feel like I've been struck with oneitis even though I have several other chicks I see regularly. I know I'm putting her on a pedestal but damn. She cooked for me, cleaned for me, had interesting convos the whole trip when we talked, sex was divine. It was like I finally found the chick a Don Juan is in search of his whole life and then she's gone as quickly as she came in. I didn't show any neediness, but I still showed interest in her. i don't necessarily have a question about the situation, but it sucks. after quite a while of being single rummaging through the pile of uninteresting women to find a quality dime you know was just a one time thing. I guess at the very least I've now had more experience with high quality women.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Lake girl.
- Thread starter PipeDope
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You are right.
Von
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And remember... you made it happen once... you can do it again.... with ANOTHER girl, same HB level
Building_and_Loan
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Don't try to make this something it isn't, because you were probably nothing more than a good time for her. She's just enjoying being single.
Just be proud of yourself, enjoy the ego boost, and play it cool so you can smash in the future if the opportunity presents itself.
A lot of times guys fall in love or get oneitis with a girl they met on vacation, which is just a big mistake. Let it be an awesome memory and that's it.
Just be proud of yourself, enjoy the ego boost, and play it cool so you can smash in the future if the opportunity presents itself.
A lot of times guys fall in love or get oneitis with a girl they met on vacation, which is just a big mistake. Let it be an awesome memory and that's it.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Wait, she cooked and cleaned for you???
marmel75
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You young guys are way, way too impressed with the most basic sh!t.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Says something to you about our current generation.....