A friend and I took a lake trip a few hours from home over the weekend. We met with one of his coworkers and a bunch of others. I spot an absolute dime of a 21 year old who happens to be staying with my friends coworker. I engage, talk to her a bit, apply/receive kino for quite some time. Mind you, this girl is far out of my league. I'm a 6-7 at best, body maybe an 8-9. She's easy 9.5. Didn't think I stood a chance. I get her to stay in my camper the 2 nights we stayed at the lake and smashed. I don't notice a high IL now however after we have split ways. I'm 6 hours from where she lives, which obviously poses a problem. To be honest I feel like I've been struck with oneitis even though I have several other chicks I see regularly. I know I'm putting her on a pedestal but damn. She cooked for me, cleaned for me, had interesting convos the whole trip when we talked, sex was divine. It was like I finally found the chick a Don Juan is in search of his whole life and then she's gone as quickly as she came in. I didn't show any neediness, but I still showed interest in her. i don't necessarily have a question about the situation, but it sucks. after quite a while of being single rummaging through the pile of uninteresting women to find a quality dime you know was just a one time thing. I guess at the very least I've now had more experience with high quality women.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Lake girl.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You are right.
Von
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And remember... you made it happen once... you can do it again.... with ANOTHER girl, same HB level
Building_and_Loan
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Don't try to make this something it isn't, because you were probably nothing more than a good time for her. She's just enjoying being single.
Just be proud of yourself, enjoy the ego boost, and play it cool so you can smash in the future if the opportunity presents itself.
A lot of times guys fall in love or get oneitis with a girl they met on vacation, which is just a big mistake. Let it be an awesome memory and that's it.
Just be proud of yourself, enjoy the ego boost, and play it cool so you can smash in the future if the opportunity presents itself.
A lot of times guys fall in love or get oneitis with a girl they met on vacation, which is just a big mistake. Let it be an awesome memory and that's it.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Wait, she cooked and cleaned for you???
marmel75
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You young guys are way, way too impressed with the most basic sh!t.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Says something to you about our current generation.....