"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
mrgoodstuff
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mrgoodstuff
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Ain't no fitness model but it'll do.
RickTheToad
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No doubt.
mrgoodstuff
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Something is fvcked with her teeth and eyes. Other than that, have a good date, escalate, bang her and spin her as a plate. And keeping adding more chicks.
Everyone has to start somewhere in this dating game and I've smashed slightly worse than her.
Everyone has to start somewhere in this dating game and I've smashed slightly worse than her.
mrgoodstuff
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Most of the guys in the site can bang close to this level and it'd get them In the game.
logicallefty
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I would hit it. Borrow your d|cks. And hit it again.
RickTheToad
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Yea, the teeth caught my eye too. I do not see anything wrong with her eyes though. No one's perfect, but we'll see. I'm no Mr. Olympia, so whatever happens, happens. She's within 30 mins., so that's a plus.
One of the ladies I am talking to is half jew half italian (didn't even know they made those) and still lives at home in her 30's. The living with parents thing bothers me, but she's only 8 miles away. I am supposedly seeing her tomorrow. We'll see. I've dating jews and italians and they seem like nothing but trouble. Trying to go into it with an opened mind. I've skipped most who've messaged me who've are living with parents. However, she's been messaging me for a few months on different platforms and I'd thought to give it a shot and see where it goes.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Good deal man. Get out there and have fun. To expectations other than escalation (if the date is going well).
RickTheToad
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That's the plan. A little older than I originally wanted, but I thought it could be a stepping stone to get back to younger ladies. This also assumes they still look like their pics.
Dust 2 Dust
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6/10 on my scale. I'd do it.
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Yeah I would.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
RickTheToad
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Side note, one of the other ladies I was chatting with over the weekend sent me her number and I texted her a few hours ago. Silence. I double checked the number to make sure I typed in in correctly, but it was. Do I wait a few days and then reach out again or via the online app? She was pretty quick to respond to my messages on the app, so it's a bit puzzling.
Dust 2 Dust
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No sense in trying again. She saw your text and chose not to respond. You will get ghosted like a mofo on those apps.
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Like I always say, they are either fvckable or not fvckable. No in between. If they are fvckable and fun, continue but proceed with caution as always.
If you want to rate on a numbers scale, go for it. Those are my 2 brackets. 80% of women that are between 25 and 35 fall into the not fvckable because I am picky and they require more than good looks for me to even hook up.
Hmmm. I probably wouldnt bang her. I always go for chicks with a slamming body with a butta face or a chick with a cute/pretty face with a little bit of meat. this chick doesnt seem to meet that criteria, but you do you bro!
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.