Ladies and gentlemen I've cracked the code

[Clockwerk50]

Rome wasn't built in a day. Expecting the OP to suddenly become perfect after years of habits is unrealistic.

The important thing is that he's taking advice, trying new things, and moving forward with the process. That's more than can be said for a lot of people. I can count on one hand the number of posters who actually listen to feedback, apply it, and keep putting themselves out there.

 

[Plinco]

@Plinco the thing you keep missing, intentionally I'm sure due to your ego issue, is that what you think doesn't matter. What she thinks does.

This is just stupid. Thinking like this is taking a submissive posture. If a man doesn't want to go on a date with a woman then it doesn't happen, right?

@BackInTheGame78 is right. An attractive woman is infinitely more excited by Friday night drinks (which can easily lead to sex on the first meeting) than Sunday coffee (less likely). Imagine inviting her for drinks to your place - the probability of sex is near 100% if she accepts.

Women are aware of this and hence reserve those opportunities for the men they are most attracted to. You should at least plan spicy dates to gauge her interest. If you can only ever get Sunday coffee something is wrong.

There's a little bit of truth to that but if she likes you enough it doesn't matter. I've banged girls in the middle of the day lots of times.

 

[Plinco]

Rome wasn't built in a day. Expecting the OP to suddenly become perfect after years of habits is unrealistic.

The important thing is that he's taking advice, trying new things, and moving forward with the process. That's more than can be said for a lot of people. I can count on one hand the number of posters who actually listen to feedback, apply it, and keep putting themselves out there.

Yeah that was the whole texting thing I had going on. It reminds me when I went back to university several years after dropping out my sophomore year. I walked in a class where I had to pick up calculus that I hadn't used in since I dropped out and had to relearn it all from scratch. Same thing with dating. I've been out of the game for so long that I forgot how text.