"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Killed it tonight at the bar, need a little advice though
- Thread starter Fatal Jay
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
its whenever you want to bro. - just not straight away.if theres interest on their part, its not gonna wear off if you call in 3 instead of 5.
Make it 2 days if you have time then. just base it around YOUR life and what YOU have going on.
You have the wrong attitude there- dont want to "ruin it".
take the mindset that when you call - you are giving them a chance to prove to you that they are worth the time and effort from you, that they are more than just pretty faces.
And how about a FR?
Don't start feeling unworthy because they are a "9."
Contact them whenever the fvck you want! Who cares if it doesn't work out? Experiment with it!
Good luck!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Night-hawk
Master Don Juan
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Usually the shorter the interaction, the more swiftly I need to move to keep the connection alive. Meaning, I'll shoot her a text the same night I met her.
With girls that I've really connected with, kiss closed at the very least, I wait a few days.
And also don't get your hopes up. With girls you meet in clubs, you never know what's going to happen once their high wears off. Gotten girls numbers at bar close after a 2 minute convo and had them wanting to meet up the next day. Meanwhile, I've spent a long time with girls, thinking I had it in the bag, only to have them never respond to texts/phone calls.
You never know.