"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Killed it tonight at the bar, need a little advice though

Fatal Jay

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I had a great night tonight, pulled two hb9s at the same club. Thing is I need a little reassurance, when do I contact? Three days after or 5 days after, I don't want to ruin it with these two chicks.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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good work :up: its whenever you want to bro. - just not straight away.

if theres interest on their part, its not gonna wear off if you call in 3 instead of 5.

Make it 2 days if you have time then. just base it around YOUR life and what YOU have going on.

You have the wrong attitude there- dont want to "ruin it".

take the mindset that when you call - you are giving them a chance to prove to you that they are worth the time and effort from you, that they are more than just pretty faces.

And how about a FR?:D
 

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yeah my mindset is already bad, I shouldn't care about ruining it, glad you checked that out of me.
 

Fatal Jay

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my thing is though, I have heard a lot of guys on here say wait at least 4 to 5 days, why is this?

what happened to the 3 day rule?
 

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This is why I don't like the 1-10 scale. They are either a 0 (you don't want to bang them) or a 1 (you want to bang them).

Don't start feeling unworthy because they are a "9."

Contact them whenever the fvck you want! Who cares if it doesn't work out? Experiment with it!

Good luck!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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'You don't want to ruin it with these chicks'. You are already placing high value on them. You must screen them by risking losing them.
 

Fatal Jay

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so you guys just go for it and just text or call them the next day
 

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Depends on the kind of interaction I had with the girl and the length of it.

Usually the shorter the interaction, the more swiftly I need to move to keep the connection alive. Meaning, I'll shoot her a text the same night I met her.

With girls that I've really connected with, kiss closed at the very least, I wait a few days.

And also don't get your hopes up. With girls you meet in clubs, you never know what's going to happen once their high wears off. Gotten girls numbers at bar close after a 2 minute convo and had them wanting to meet up the next day. Meanwhile, I've spent a long time with girls, thinking I had it in the bag, only to have them never respond to texts/phone calls.

You never know.
 
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