She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I like green veggies and I'll do more to add them to my regimen daily. Mrs. K went to Sams Club and bought huge bags of wings and hot dogs so that's why I've been eating a lot of those. She's really doing her part to help me stay strong and keep focus.Quiksilver said:You're doing great man, but that food isn't necessarily good for you. Sure it's better than your diet before, but hotdogs and chicken wings are packed with stuff that I wouldn't exactly call healthy.
The ****ty feeling could just be your body reacting to your new lifestyle, remember the human body resists change like a mofo, and loves homeostasis. As long as you're doing the right things, then trust that the crappy feeling will go away once your body's adapted to your new lifestyle.
Is that all you're eating, hotdogs and chicken wings? I'd throw lots of vegetables and other good stuff in, as you can tolerate it.
I'll throw you a link to my daily diet, it hasn't changed much except for getting rid of cauliflower and adding esparagus.
here it is:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=130257
It's finding the right fats to add that seems to be my problem. My appetite is nothing compared to what it used to be and I'm not hungry as before either.Warboss Alex said:Karma - jello, spinach and brussel sprouts are not meals. Add a protein source to these and fats and you should be okay. You're a big guy and not eating very many calories. If you feel ****ty on low carb increase your fats - you should feel awesome on low carb if you eat enough calories.
Quik - chicken wings are fine, hotdogs less so but as long as they're mostly protein/fat (the additives are not healthy though).
Higher fat diets satiate you much better hence your lack of hunger (along with your blood sugar control). It's a good sign.KarmaSutra said:It's finding the right fats to add that seems to be my problem. My appetite is nothing compared to what it used to be and I'm not hungry as before either.
What fats do you suggest? Olive oil, butter? I use a sh!tload of both.
Warboss Alex said:Higher fat diets satiate you much better hence your lack of hunger (along with your blood sugar control). It's a good sign.
Fats can be olive oil, butter, nuts, nut butter, fatty meats, fatty fish, whole eggs, olives, higher fat dairy products (no milk), avocado..
dude, you have to start logging this stuff.KarmaSutra said:10-4. I go through a jar of peanut butter a week. And I'm going to pickup a container of almonds tonight to snack on while I'm at work.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
I've been lax on the gym for about 5 days because I'm getting over a bug or virus and I've been pretty worthless. I tried to get some yardwork done the other day but I had to stop. I still have the aches and sniffles but I'm taking all of my gym gear to work and I'll shoot for going at 0500 tomorrow after work.Warboss Alex said:dude, you have to start logging this stuff.
along with your 6 meals, keep some sort of idea of how much peanut butter you eat every day - don't go measuring the spoonfuls with a scale but if you're taking in 4 tbsp of pb a day say for example, that's a significant amount of calories.
keep with what you're eating now, don't cut anything out but DO log everything. that way we can troubleshoot best.
also where are the workouts/cardio?
we need to get this diet sorted out..KarmaSutra said:Meal 1 - jell-o cup. WHERE IS THE PROTEIN/FAT?
Slept most of the day.
meal 2 -mashed cauliflower WHERE IS THE PROTEIN/FAT?
meal 3 - 2 whopper jr's no bread. NICE ONE
meal 4 - turkey slices. WHERE IS THE FAT?
meal 5 - peanut butter WHERE IS THE PROTEIN?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.