She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I like green veggies and I'll do more to add them to my regimen daily. Mrs. K went to Sams Club and bought huge bags of wings and hot dogs so that's why I've been eating a lot of those. She's really doing her part to help me stay strong and keep focus.Quiksilver said:You're doing great man, but that food isn't necessarily good for you. Sure it's better than your diet before, but hotdogs and chicken wings are packed with stuff that I wouldn't exactly call healthy.
The ****ty feeling could just be your body reacting to your new lifestyle, remember the human body resists change like a mofo, and loves homeostasis. As long as you're doing the right things, then trust that the crappy feeling will go away once your body's adapted to your new lifestyle.
Is that all you're eating, hotdogs and chicken wings? I'd throw lots of vegetables and other good stuff in, as you can tolerate it.
I'll throw you a link to my daily diet, it hasn't changed much except for getting rid of cauliflower and adding esparagus.
here it is:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=130257
It's finding the right fats to add that seems to be my problem. My appetite is nothing compared to what it used to be and I'm not hungry as before either.Warboss Alex said:Karma - jello, spinach and brussel sprouts are not meals. Add a protein source to these and fats and you should be okay. You're a big guy and not eating very many calories. If you feel ****ty on low carb increase your fats - you should feel awesome on low carb if you eat enough calories.
Quik - chicken wings are fine, hotdogs less so but as long as they're mostly protein/fat (the additives are not healthy though).
Higher fat diets satiate you much better hence your lack of hunger (along with your blood sugar control). It's a good sign.KarmaSutra said:It's finding the right fats to add that seems to be my problem. My appetite is nothing compared to what it used to be and I'm not hungry as before either.
What fats do you suggest? Olive oil, butter? I use a sh!tload of both.
Warboss Alex said:Higher fat diets satiate you much better hence your lack of hunger (along with your blood sugar control). It's a good sign.
Fats can be olive oil, butter, nuts, nut butter, fatty meats, fatty fish, whole eggs, olives, higher fat dairy products (no milk), avocado..
dude, you have to start logging this stuff.KarmaSutra said:10-4. I go through a jar of peanut butter a week. And I'm going to pickup a container of almonds tonight to snack on while I'm at work.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I've been lax on the gym for about 5 days because I'm getting over a bug or virus and I've been pretty worthless. I tried to get some yardwork done the other day but I had to stop. I still have the aches and sniffles but I'm taking all of my gym gear to work and I'll shoot for going at 0500 tomorrow after work.Warboss Alex said:dude, you have to start logging this stuff.
along with your 6 meals, keep some sort of idea of how much peanut butter you eat every day - don't go measuring the spoonfuls with a scale but if you're taking in 4 tbsp of pb a day say for example, that's a significant amount of calories.
keep with what you're eating now, don't cut anything out but DO log everything. that way we can troubleshoot best.
also where are the workouts/cardio?
we need to get this diet sorted out..KarmaSutra said:Meal 1 - jell-o cup. WHERE IS THE PROTEIN/FAT?
Slept most of the day.
meal 2 -mashed cauliflower WHERE IS THE PROTEIN/FAT?
meal 3 - 2 whopper jr's no bread. NICE ONE
meal 4 - turkey slices. WHERE IS THE FAT?
meal 5 - peanut butter WHERE IS THE PROTEIN?
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.