Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I like green veggies and I'll do more to add them to my regimen daily. Mrs. K went to Sams Club and bought huge bags of wings and hot dogs so that's why I've been eating a lot of those. She's really doing her part to help me stay strong and keep focus.Quiksilver said:You're doing great man, but that food isn't necessarily good for you. Sure it's better than your diet before, but hotdogs and chicken wings are packed with stuff that I wouldn't exactly call healthy.
The ****ty feeling could just be your body reacting to your new lifestyle, remember the human body resists change like a mofo, and loves homeostasis. As long as you're doing the right things, then trust that the crappy feeling will go away once your body's adapted to your new lifestyle.
Is that all you're eating, hotdogs and chicken wings? I'd throw lots of vegetables and other good stuff in, as you can tolerate it.
I'll throw you a link to my daily diet, it hasn't changed much except for getting rid of cauliflower and adding esparagus.
here it is:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=130257
It's finding the right fats to add that seems to be my problem. My appetite is nothing compared to what it used to be and I'm not hungry as before either.Warboss Alex said:Karma - jello, spinach and brussel sprouts are not meals. Add a protein source to these and fats and you should be okay. You're a big guy and not eating very many calories. If you feel ****ty on low carb increase your fats - you should feel awesome on low carb if you eat enough calories.
Quik - chicken wings are fine, hotdogs less so but as long as they're mostly protein/fat (the additives are not healthy though).
Higher fat diets satiate you much better hence your lack of hunger (along with your blood sugar control). It's a good sign.KarmaSutra said:It's finding the right fats to add that seems to be my problem. My appetite is nothing compared to what it used to be and I'm not hungry as before either.
What fats do you suggest? Olive oil, butter? I use a sh!tload of both.
Warboss Alex said:Higher fat diets satiate you much better hence your lack of hunger (along with your blood sugar control). It's a good sign.
Fats can be olive oil, butter, nuts, nut butter, fatty meats, fatty fish, whole eggs, olives, higher fat dairy products (no milk), avocado..
dude, you have to start logging this stuff.KarmaSutra said:10-4. I go through a jar of peanut butter a week. And I'm going to pickup a container of almonds tonight to snack on while I'm at work.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I've been lax on the gym for about 5 days because I'm getting over a bug or virus and I've been pretty worthless. I tried to get some yardwork done the other day but I had to stop. I still have the aches and sniffles but I'm taking all of my gym gear to work and I'll shoot for going at 0500 tomorrow after work.Warboss Alex said:dude, you have to start logging this stuff.
along with your 6 meals, keep some sort of idea of how much peanut butter you eat every day - don't go measuring the spoonfuls with a scale but if you're taking in 4 tbsp of pb a day say for example, that's a significant amount of calories.
keep with what you're eating now, don't cut anything out but DO log everything. that way we can troubleshoot best.
also where are the workouts/cardio?
we need to get this diet sorted out..KarmaSutra said:Meal 1 - jell-o cup. WHERE IS THE PROTEIN/FAT?
Slept most of the day.
meal 2 -mashed cauliflower WHERE IS THE PROTEIN/FAT?
meal 3 - 2 whopper jr's no bread. NICE ONE
meal 4 - turkey slices. WHERE IS THE FAT?
meal 5 - peanut butter WHERE IS THE PROTEIN?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.