Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I like green veggies and I'll do more to add them to my regimen daily. Mrs. K went to Sams Club and bought huge bags of wings and hot dogs so that's why I've been eating a lot of those. She's really doing her part to help me stay strong and keep focus.Quiksilver said:You're doing great man, but that food isn't necessarily good for you. Sure it's better than your diet before, but hotdogs and chicken wings are packed with stuff that I wouldn't exactly call healthy.
The ****ty feeling could just be your body reacting to your new lifestyle, remember the human body resists change like a mofo, and loves homeostasis. As long as you're doing the right things, then trust that the crappy feeling will go away once your body's adapted to your new lifestyle.
Is that all you're eating, hotdogs and chicken wings? I'd throw lots of vegetables and other good stuff in, as you can tolerate it.
I'll throw you a link to my daily diet, it hasn't changed much except for getting rid of cauliflower and adding esparagus.
here it is:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=130257
It's finding the right fats to add that seems to be my problem. My appetite is nothing compared to what it used to be and I'm not hungry as before either.Warboss Alex said:Karma - jello, spinach and brussel sprouts are not meals. Add a protein source to these and fats and you should be okay. You're a big guy and not eating very many calories. If you feel ****ty on low carb increase your fats - you should feel awesome on low carb if you eat enough calories.
Quik - chicken wings are fine, hotdogs less so but as long as they're mostly protein/fat (the additives are not healthy though).
Higher fat diets satiate you much better hence your lack of hunger (along with your blood sugar control). It's a good sign.KarmaSutra said:It's finding the right fats to add that seems to be my problem. My appetite is nothing compared to what it used to be and I'm not hungry as before either.
What fats do you suggest? Olive oil, butter? I use a sh!tload of both.
Warboss Alex said:Higher fat diets satiate you much better hence your lack of hunger (along with your blood sugar control). It's a good sign.
Fats can be olive oil, butter, nuts, nut butter, fatty meats, fatty fish, whole eggs, olives, higher fat dairy products (no milk), avocado..
dude, you have to start logging this stuff.KarmaSutra said:10-4. I go through a jar of peanut butter a week. And I'm going to pickup a container of almonds tonight to snack on while I'm at work.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I've been lax on the gym for about 5 days because I'm getting over a bug or virus and I've been pretty worthless. I tried to get some yardwork done the other day but I had to stop. I still have the aches and sniffles but I'm taking all of my gym gear to work and I'll shoot for going at 0500 tomorrow after work.Warboss Alex said:dude, you have to start logging this stuff.
along with your 6 meals, keep some sort of idea of how much peanut butter you eat every day - don't go measuring the spoonfuls with a scale but if you're taking in 4 tbsp of pb a day say for example, that's a significant amount of calories.
keep with what you're eating now, don't cut anything out but DO log everything. that way we can troubleshoot best.
also where are the workouts/cardio?
we need to get this diet sorted out..KarmaSutra said:Meal 1 - jell-o cup. WHERE IS THE PROTEIN/FAT?
Slept most of the day.
meal 2 -mashed cauliflower WHERE IS THE PROTEIN/FAT?
meal 3 - 2 whopper jr's no bread. NICE ONE
meal 4 - turkey slices. WHERE IS THE FAT?
meal 5 - peanut butter WHERE IS THE PROTEIN?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.