"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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K close: Bookstore approach

n00bPimp

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I went to the bookstore looking for targets. Found a couple of HBs in the history section then another HB wondered into the section. Somehow this section seems to be the spot for HBs. I stood there for about 5 mins pretending to be looking for somthing. I waited for the section to get a little less crowded to approach this HB7 (violation of the 3 second rule i know but somehow I didn't feel any hesitation because I knew how I was going to open). She seemed like the nerdy type.

me: Its funny but they have nothing about Lenin anywhere here.
She: (smlied) oh really?
Me: Yes i looked all over
She: *looks around and finds a book on Lenin*
Me: oh sweet thanx. And you dont even work here right? lol
She: (smiles) na.
I noticed she had a huge bag one of those with the wheels at the bottom
Me: (no smile) So are you homeless or sumthing? what do you have in there?
She: (stares at me like if trying to figure me out then smiles) no!.. blah blah blah...
Me: then I did rapport building + kino for about 5 minutes then I did the eyes pattern. The sexual tension was there. At this point we were staring deep into each others eyes and not saying a word. this lasted for like 5 secs but man did it seem like 5 hrs. Then I knew what had to be done.. I kissed her right then and there. Took her # and left.

Its funny because I entered the store with a goal of at least 5 #'s. but after my first approach I felt like my job there was done. haha. The girl must be thinking "wtf just happened?" She doesnt know this is just another day in the life of n00bPimp.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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drtk

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Hahaha, awesome. Keep up the good work man. Cheers!

-drtk
 
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Good job, n00bPimp.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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