I apologize for intruding in what appears to be a for-guys-only kind of forum, but I need a little male insight on my situation. I've been working with this guy for several months. We get along great and have what I consider a natural chemistry. Anyway, we flirt quite a bit...so much that our co-workers have made comments. My question is how do you tell the difference between a guy who just enjoys flirting for the fun of it and a guy who may actually be interested in something more?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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If he asks you out, then he wants something more.
AFK Protector
Master Don Juan
Some guys are insecure and don't ask you out unless they get a signal from you. If you're interested, flirt back and show interest. If not, just act like you're not interested. Simple as that. Don't play with him though....show interest and sometimes even be active about it.
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AFK Protector
Master Don Juan
I'm sure, unless he's totally sure of himself (but he woulda asked you by then... so no), that he visits sites like this....or others...and reads about signs of high interest.
Probably do a search on "kino" or "kinesthetics." Smile a lot, but not freaky. Touch him...like brushing once in a while. Slowly get more touchy. Seriously a girl shouldn't have to do all this, and he should be making a move if you. But yea...most guys need a little nudge.
After a convo or something, just say you enjoyed it or whatnot. Do a search at www.msn.com for signs of interest from a woman....and do them. BUT BE WARNED. If you're not doing these things naturally...are you really attracted to the guy? If you like goin slow, go slow. Its always the guys job to ask even though we are thoroughly tired of it. Good luck.
Probably do a search on "kino" or "kinesthetics." Smile a lot, but not freaky. Touch him...like brushing once in a while. Slowly get more touchy. Seriously a girl shouldn't have to do all this, and he should be making a move if you. But yea...most guys need a little nudge.
After a convo or something, just say you enjoyed it or whatnot. Do a search at www.msn.com for signs of interest from a woman....and do them. BUT BE WARNED. If you're not doing these things naturally...are you really attracted to the guy? If you like goin slow, go slow. Its always the guys job to ask even though we are thoroughly tired of it. Good luck.
E-Z Rider
Master Don Juan
Hell, if you're really interested in this guy, you might try to bait him into asking you out.
Now, usually you wouldn't have to do this, but if this guy doesn't get hints easily (and a lot of guys don't...) then it's worth a shot.
A chick I really liked actually did this. I was worried if she liked me or not. This was a few yrs ago of course.
We talked and had chemistry in school. We ended up talking on the internet. (yeah, whatever). I told her about this concert I was going to for the summer. I think I wanted her to come but was too scared to ask. She responded and said she'd really love to go. So of course, I said that would be no problem
Now what she did was kinda forward for a girl. It is kind of like 'inviting yourself', which a lot of people won't do. But it sure as hell worked out for her. Her saying that made it 1000x easier for me to get a hint and ask her to come along.
After that point, I had more confidence altogether and asked her out on a few dates.
I was still kinda shy, so she ended up kissing me first. Blew my mind
Damn I learned a lot from that relationship...
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So that is what you may have to do. Kind of bait him into asking you to go somewhere. That should get him on the ball if he likes you, without you being way too forward. If he seems like he likes you but is too shy to make any moves (like kiss you...), kissing him is not a bad thing, but from a girl the first kiss should just be a little peck (at least with a shy guy- you still want to be kind of coy).
If the chap still doesn't get the hint, he either doesn't like you or is hopeless.
Hope this helps you- -E-Z
Now, usually you wouldn't have to do this, but if this guy doesn't get hints easily (and a lot of guys don't...) then it's worth a shot.
A chick I really liked actually did this. I was worried if she liked me or not. This was a few yrs ago of course.
We talked and had chemistry in school. We ended up talking on the internet. (yeah, whatever). I told her about this concert I was going to for the summer. I think I wanted her to come but was too scared to ask. She responded and said she'd really love to go. So of course, I said that would be no problem
Now what she did was kinda forward for a girl. It is kind of like 'inviting yourself', which a lot of people won't do. But it sure as hell worked out for her. Her saying that made it 1000x easier for me to get a hint and ask her to come along.
After that point, I had more confidence altogether and asked her out on a few dates.
I was still kinda shy, so she ended up kissing me first. Blew my mind
Damn I learned a lot from that relationship...
---
So that is what you may have to do. Kind of bait him into asking you to go somewhere. That should get him on the ball if he likes you, without you being way too forward. If he seems like he likes you but is too shy to make any moves (like kiss you...), kissing him is not a bad thing, but from a girl the first kiss should just be a little peck (at least with a shy guy- you still want to be kind of coy).
If the chap still doesn't get the hint, he either doesn't like you or is hopeless.
Hope this helps you- -E-Z