Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Depends on the girl and her BF?... can you please provide scenarios.milrenkb said:Your question is way to open man. Hate to give you this generic answer but it depends on the girl and her boyfriend. However you shouldn't be worried about that. Theres plenty of cool girls out there you can make friends with as a way of gaining access to other social networks.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
seee.. thats what I would say to a girl that I would want to get in her panties NSA.... i.e. ohhh just "friends"... I am harmless.... lol... if she hot, and she drunk and asks for you to put your finger in her ass... I am sure you wouldDJnoob said:So, IT IS harder to make friend (meaning exchanging numbers and hanging out) with women with boyfriends? I'm talking about friends as in just friends like your male friends. No interest whatsoever in her.
Nope. I just want her as social proof. But if it ever comes across.. hey, why not.Bvbidd said:DJN finally makes a good point.
DJnoob your telling me you want to spend time with her but would never ever do anything sexual with her ever?