"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Just wanted to get this straight
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Depends on the girl and her BF?... can you please provide scenarios.milrenkb said:Your question is way to open man. Hate to give you this generic answer but it depends on the girl and her boyfriend. However you shouldn't be worried about that. Theres plenty of cool girls out there you can make friends with as a way of gaining access to other social networks.
Well as for this girl.. she usually comes down and works at my store during vacations from school for 1-2 months and goes back UC Long Beach at the end of her break .. Im assuming her BF lives in L.A. where she goes to school.
Chosen1
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If you had interest in her, it would be a lot easier to be just friends with her.
LOL.. Just fall in love with her or something.
She'll see you as harmless and want you to hang around and have harmless fun.
- If she's really hot. That's probally what is happening.
If she's not that hot, then she could just not be use to having guy as just friends and have only ever hung out with girls.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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seee.. thats what I would say to a girl that I would want to get in her panties NSA.... i.e. ohhh just "friends"... I am harmless.... lol... if she hot, and she drunk and asks for you to put your finger in her ass... I am sure you wouldDJnoob said:So, IT IS harder to make friend (meaning exchanging numbers and hanging out) with women with boyfriends? I'm talking about friends as in just friends like your male friends. No interest whatsoever in her.
lol
Nope. I just want her as social proof. But if it ever comes across.. hey, why not.Bvbidd said:DJN finally makes a good point.
DJnoob your telling me you want to spend time with her but would never ever do anything sexual with her ever?