Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
"Hi, I had fun trading emails with you but I'm really not feeling the chemistry. I wish you best of luck in all your endeavors..."
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Just Saw Her Photo and No Longer Interested
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Chill, man. At least you didn't go further and really mess her up.
diplomatic_lies
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I don't feel guilty for having standards. However if the girl is really nice and has a good heart, I do feel a bit sorry for her.
(Mind you, some ugly girls are real *******s, but some of them are really nice, and I'm not much of a looker myself, so I do feel a twinge of discomfort)
(Mind you, some ugly girls are real *******s, but some of them are really nice, and I'm not much of a looker myself, so I do feel a twinge of discomfort)
I'm getting the feeling here that the harder you're going to try to get rid of her, the more she'll be into you. One of those reverse mind games haha
I say go out and if you see things going in the wrong direction, let her know the next day by email or phone call. Girls reserve the right to ljbf-us so we reserve the right to do the same.
I say go out and if you see things going in the wrong direction, let her know the next day by email or phone call. Girls reserve the right to ljbf-us so we reserve the right to do the same.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Even ugly people are shallow. It's human nature, we all like looking at pretty things.
BTW - Say that you have to split the bill before you head out to a restaurant because your broke. Watch her run a mile.
If that doesn't work I would meet her in person, if you don't then she will know it's because of her looks and that will hurt her. Do you really want to do that when you could just take her out once and act like a dufus to put her off, it could be fun.
BTW - Say that you have to split the bill before you head out to a restaurant because your broke. Watch her run a mile.
If that doesn't work I would meet her in person, if you don't then she will know it's because of her looks and that will hurt her. Do you really want to do that when you could just take her out once and act like a dufus to put her off, it could be fun.
"Funny thing is that I'm waiting for another girl to respond to a pic I sent with an email. It's been about three hours. I guess she saw my photo and was no longer interested. Hahaha!"
Yea and because she's a girl - you can bet she won't give a damn about letting you down easy.
Yea and because she's a girl - you can bet she won't give a damn about letting you down easy.
you don't have to prove anything and you shouldn't feel guilty either. if you don't like her, no need to continue wasting time on her. it's all part of the game. it's her problem if she cant' handle getting dissed.Juan_Man said:
I never said that I was a hunk like Brad Pitt, I am handsome enough though not to have to date an ugly girl and during the times that I have not got a hot babe in my life I prefer to fu-ck an inflatable sex doll than pick up some ugly bi-tch from a bar to fu-ck her.d9930380 said:
I am very fussy when it comes to the girls that I go out with, some hot babes like me and others don't, but as long as one out of every one hundred of the hot babes that I meet are attracted to me then I always have one that I can date.
I guess I only consider dating about 30% of the girls that I see, but you don't have to be a hunk like Brad Pitt to date a HB7 HB8 or a HB9, and if I play my cards right I can get one of these girls.
As far as being a TROLL goes, I don't even know what one is, I have often read the term on many other threads, I know from these that it is a negative term, but maybe someone could fill me in on what it really is.
I am happy with the way that I look, it is the least of my problems, but I think that I about 30% of all guys are better looking than me, if I was a girl I would be a HB7 I would think. :crackup:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.