Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
"Hi, I had fun trading emails with you but I'm really not feeling the chemistry. I wish you best of luck in all your endeavors..."
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Just Saw Her Photo and No Longer Interested
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Chill, man. At least you didn't go further and really mess her up.
diplomatic_lies
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I don't feel guilty for having standards. However if the girl is really nice and has a good heart, I do feel a bit sorry for her.
(Mind you, some ugly girls are real *******s, but some of them are really nice, and I'm not much of a looker myself, so I do feel a twinge of discomfort)
(Mind you, some ugly girls are real *******s, but some of them are really nice, and I'm not much of a looker myself, so I do feel a twinge of discomfort)
I'm getting the feeling here that the harder you're going to try to get rid of her, the more she'll be into you. One of those reverse mind games haha
I say go out and if you see things going in the wrong direction, let her know the next day by email or phone call. Girls reserve the right to ljbf-us so we reserve the right to do the same.
I say go out and if you see things going in the wrong direction, let her know the next day by email or phone call. Girls reserve the right to ljbf-us so we reserve the right to do the same.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Even ugly people are shallow. It's human nature, we all like looking at pretty things.
BTW - Say that you have to split the bill before you head out to a restaurant because your broke. Watch her run a mile.
If that doesn't work I would meet her in person, if you don't then she will know it's because of her looks and that will hurt her. Do you really want to do that when you could just take her out once and act like a dufus to put her off, it could be fun.
BTW - Say that you have to split the bill before you head out to a restaurant because your broke. Watch her run a mile.
If that doesn't work I would meet her in person, if you don't then she will know it's because of her looks and that will hurt her. Do you really want to do that when you could just take her out once and act like a dufus to put her off, it could be fun.
"Funny thing is that I'm waiting for another girl to respond to a pic I sent with an email. It's been about three hours. I guess she saw my photo and was no longer interested. Hahaha!"
Yea and because she's a girl - you can bet she won't give a damn about letting you down easy.
Yea and because she's a girl - you can bet she won't give a damn about letting you down easy.
you don't have to prove anything and you shouldn't feel guilty either. if you don't like her, no need to continue wasting time on her. it's all part of the game. it's her problem if she cant' handle getting dissed.Juan_Man said:
I never said that I was a hunk like Brad Pitt, I am handsome enough though not to have to date an ugly girl and during the times that I have not got a hot babe in my life I prefer to fu-ck an inflatable sex doll than pick up some ugly bi-tch from a bar to fu-ck her.d9930380 said:
I am very fussy when it comes to the girls that I go out with, some hot babes like me and others don't, but as long as one out of every one hundred of the hot babes that I meet are attracted to me then I always have one that I can date.
I guess I only consider dating about 30% of the girls that I see, but you don't have to be a hunk like Brad Pitt to date a HB7 HB8 or a HB9, and if I play my cards right I can get one of these girls.
As far as being a TROLL goes, I don't even know what one is, I have often read the term on many other threads, I know from these that it is a negative term, but maybe someone could fill me in on what it really is.
I am happy with the way that I look, it is the least of my problems, but I think that I about 30% of all guys are better looking than me, if I was a girl I would be a HB7 I would think. :crackup:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.