"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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white cloud 8

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I just got off the phone with this girl (cute asian) that is in one of my classes @ university, anyway we're just conversing and I occasionally make a C+F reply to some of her comments e.g.

"She asks: don't you pamper yourself?"

"Me: I work out and play sports, thats how I stay good-looking, I know you like it"

"She replies: I think I'm gonna barf"
*laughs afterwards*

But yeah, she would be telling me all these things about other asian guys blah, blah, blah...and saying that she doesn't want to commit if the guy doesn't pay enough attention to her blah, blah, blah...oh yeah, she said that on her b-day night out to a club that I would be one of her gf's :down:. I was like "Hell no, I like my penis thank you very much", she laughed but yeah, she has a weird vibe to her.

Anyway, the conclusion I came to is I can't make every girl fall for me or have the intention that every girl I meet is going to take a liking to me romantically (it just doesn't happen that way). It doesn't mean however that its nice to have female friends, which I think she is (for now maybe...). I just tell myself that there are plenty of girls out there, so what if one doesn't take a liking to you.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Definately agree with ya there. Trying to have EVERYONE like you is just setting yourself up for failure.

However, a thing with having female friends...

given the choice, would you rather hang out with a bunch of guy friends or female friends (in a non-sexual context)

I dunno bout' you, but I always enjoy myself more in the company of guys- we just have more in common.

the only time when i like haging out with girls is when theres sex involved:D
 

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I agree with you there, I have *MORE* in common with my guy friends than girls but, then I get surprised because some girls (I know) are interested in some of the same things I am, which is cou'. I don't know, I just have to be happy with who I am and whoever I meet well...we'll see what happens.
 

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No you won't get every girl you try for. If you *really* understand how natural attraction works then you'd know that there isn't anything you can say or do if a girl isn't attracted to you naturally in any way shape or form.
 

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Originally posted by tmpgstx
No you won't get every girl you try for. If you *really* understand how natural attraction works then you'd know that there isn't anything you can say or do if a girl isn't attracted to you naturally in any way shape or form.
Thanx for the reinforcement :up:, things are looking up for me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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