"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Just one of my thoughts...

white cloud 8

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I just got off the phone with this girl (cute asian) that is in one of my classes @ university, anyway we're just conversing and I occasionally make a C+F reply to some of her comments e.g.

"She asks: don't you pamper yourself?"

"Me: I work out and play sports, thats how I stay good-looking, I know you like it"

"She replies: I think I'm gonna barf"
*laughs afterwards*

But yeah, she would be telling me all these things about other asian guys blah, blah, blah...and saying that she doesn't want to commit if the guy doesn't pay enough attention to her blah, blah, blah...oh yeah, she said that on her b-day night out to a club that I would be one of her gf's :down:. I was like "Hell no, I like my penis thank you very much", she laughed but yeah, she has a weird vibe to her.

Anyway, the conclusion I came to is I can't make every girl fall for me or have the intention that every girl I meet is going to take a liking to me romantically (it just doesn't happen that way). It doesn't mean however that its nice to have female friends, which I think she is (for now maybe...). I just tell myself that there are plenty of girls out there, so what if one doesn't take a liking to you.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Definately agree with ya there. Trying to have EVERYONE like you is just setting yourself up for failure.

However, a thing with having female friends...

given the choice, would you rather hang out with a bunch of guy friends or female friends (in a non-sexual context)

I dunno bout' you, but I always enjoy myself more in the company of guys- we just have more in common.

the only time when i like haging out with girls is when theres sex involved:D
 

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I agree with you there, I have *MORE* in common with my guy friends than girls but, then I get surprised because some girls (I know) are interested in some of the same things I am, which is cou'. I don't know, I just have to be happy with who I am and whoever I meet well...we'll see what happens.
 

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No you won't get every girl you try for. If you *really* understand how natural attraction works then you'd know that there isn't anything you can say or do if a girl isn't attracted to you naturally in any way shape or form.
 

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Originally posted by tmpgstx
No you won't get every girl you try for. If you *really* understand how natural attraction works then you'd know that there isn't anything you can say or do if a girl isn't attracted to you naturally in any way shape or form.
Thanx for the reinforcement :up:, things are looking up for me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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