"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Just one of my thoughts...

white cloud 8

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I just got off the phone with this girl (cute asian) that is in one of my classes @ university, anyway we're just conversing and I occasionally make a C+F reply to some of her comments e.g.

"She asks: don't you pamper yourself?"

"Me: I work out and play sports, thats how I stay good-looking, I know you like it"

"She replies: I think I'm gonna barf"
*laughs afterwards*

But yeah, she would be telling me all these things about other asian guys blah, blah, blah...and saying that she doesn't want to commit if the guy doesn't pay enough attention to her blah, blah, blah...oh yeah, she said that on her b-day night out to a club that I would be one of her gf's :down:. I was like "Hell no, I like my penis thank you very much", she laughed but yeah, she has a weird vibe to her.

Anyway, the conclusion I came to is I can't make every girl fall for me or have the intention that every girl I meet is going to take a liking to me romantically (it just doesn't happen that way). It doesn't mean however that its nice to have female friends, which I think she is (for now maybe...). I just tell myself that there are plenty of girls out there, so what if one doesn't take a liking to you.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Definately agree with ya there. Trying to have EVERYONE like you is just setting yourself up for failure.

However, a thing with having female friends...

given the choice, would you rather hang out with a bunch of guy friends or female friends (in a non-sexual context)

I dunno bout' you, but I always enjoy myself more in the company of guys- we just have more in common.

the only time when i like haging out with girls is when theres sex involved:D
 

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I agree with you there, I have *MORE* in common with my guy friends than girls but, then I get surprised because some girls (I know) are interested in some of the same things I am, which is cou'. I don't know, I just have to be happy with who I am and whoever I meet well...we'll see what happens.
 

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No you won't get every girl you try for. If you *really* understand how natural attraction works then you'd know that there isn't anything you can say or do if a girl isn't attracted to you naturally in any way shape or form.
 

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Originally posted by tmpgstx
No you won't get every girl you try for. If you *really* understand how natural attraction works then you'd know that there isn't anything you can say or do if a girl isn't attracted to you naturally in any way shape or form.
Thanx for the reinforcement :up:, things are looking up for me.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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