Just not that attracted to her any more

Murkserious

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My main plate Sophie is not doing it for me sexually anymore. She’s actually giving me blowj0bs at will (the best I’ve had), cooking for me, being supportive and everything I need right now. We’re basically a couple. I see her one a week maybe twice, she’ll stay over Friday and Saturday sometimes. But I don’t even want to have sex with her any more and I force it and pretend she’s someone else which is something I’ve never done and only read about men doing. Her vaginas sometimes has a weird smell, like not extremely strong but it doesn’t smell great and she’s always someone’s smelled like that. Compared to my ex who in the whole time together never smelled anything but good.

She knows I’m seeing other girls, well she suspects it. She came over at the weekend and saw two wine glasses, fired questions, saw hummus and cheese in my fridge, more questions, saw ginger snaps in my cupboard “where did you get these”, I’d changed a girls name to “Greg” in my phone and got the “I know Greg is a girl” line of questioning, she nearly cried. She had said the pill is making her crazy, I told her she’s was crazy and I think she’s doubting herself.

She said “why are you doing this, why can’t you just say Sophie I want to see other girls and I don’t wanna see you any more” that was my out, I didn’t take it because I like the companionship and having something there she lives close enough to be at my place in 15 mins and she treats me like a king.

However this relationship is running it’s course sadly, I need something exotic and exciting. I need new plates.
 

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It's been 2 months for this relationship, yea?
 

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It's been 2 months for this relationship, yea?
No we met in feb last year, saw each other until about this time last year, separate ways over summer (due to me giving her chlamydia if you remember the threads) then picked up around September and when Sara moved out in March we picked things back up again.

The recent one you’re talking about is Alison, hsv1 girl, seeing her Saturday.
 

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I think I was getting her mixed up with the Spanish girl who came after Sarah

It is what it is, it's run its course.

Sounds like it is getting a little too stable for your liking.. you tend to like excitement, passion, drama, etc.

She's reliable and not volatile, there's no push pull and your not feeling passion, too boring for you
 

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I’m enjoying her coming over, us cooking and getting a bottle of wine, a movie or series on Netflix, then bed to kiss, cuddle and have sex. I’m just not turned on by her face or body any more although she’s attractive and all the guys that see her tell me she’s a keeper.

Me and Spanish Maria have had some distance recently I last saw her 3 weeks ago maybe more, it’s not serious though I think she’s equally scared to commit to anything deeper and she’s not pressuring me although her actions have changed when we are together and I know she caught feels.

I’ve also been masturbating to porn every day all year. I contemplated an escort last week just for the thrill. I have an issue. I need got sacked for going on tinder on my work pc.
 

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I’m in a similar situation. My gf of eight months still treats me like a king, cooks, cleans, gives me all the sex I need. The last couple of times we banged I fantasized about some other chick. Sex gets boring with the same old vag despite being freaky in the bedroom. Honestly, I miss the chase of new women and laying them. I also miss the feeling of a new vag. I would just dump her but realize that you can never go back after you get all that new vag out of your system.
 

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I’m in a similar situation. My gf of eight months still treats me like a king, cooks, cleans, gives me all the sex I need. The last couple of times we banged I fantasized about some other chick. Sex gets boring with the same old vag despite being freaky in the bedroom. Honestly, I miss the chase of new women and laying them. I also miss the feeling of a new vag. I would just dump her but realize that you can never go back after you get all that new vag out of your system.
Stick it in her ass then
 

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I’m in a similar situation. My gf of eight months still treats me like a king, cooks, cleans, gives me all the sex I need. The last couple of times we banged I fantasized about some other chick. Sex gets boring with the same old vag despite being freaky in the bedroom. Honestly, I miss the chase of new women and laying them. I also miss the feeling of a new vag. I would just dump her but realize that you can never go back after you get all that new vag out of your system.
That’s what hookers are for. Keep the main chick but add some variety.
 

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This is the reason I say men need plates or practice polygamy.

It ain't natural for men to just have 1 partner, even he insists he needs just one, 'the one and only unicorn', then soy boy will be in a lot of pain after she dumps him.

Then we'll be getting more BPD, NPD and Demonic women threads.
 

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This is the reason I say men need plates or practice polygamy.

It ain't natural for men to just have 1 partner, even he insists he needs just one, 'the one and only unicorn', then soy boy will be in a lot of pain after she dumps him.

Then we'll be getting more BPD, NPD and Demonic women threads.
This thread encourages me. @Murkserious i like the style hes running. this is the dynamic that SHOULD be in the relationship.
 

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My main plate Sophie is not doing it for me sexually anymore. She’s actually giving me blowj0bs at will (the best I’ve had), cooking for me, being supportive and everything I need right now. We’re basically a couple. I see her one a week maybe twice, she’ll stay over Friday and Saturday sometimes. But I don’t even want to have sex with her any more and I force it and pretend she’s someone else which is something I’ve never done and only read about men doing. Her vaginas sometimes has a weird smell, like not extremely strong but it doesn’t smell great and she’s always someone’s smelled like that. Compared to my ex who in the whole time together never smelled anything but good.

She knows I’m seeing other girls, well she suspects it. She came over at the weekend and saw two wine glasses, fired questions, saw hummus and cheese in my fridge, more questions, saw ginger snaps in my cupboard “where did you get these”, I’d changed a girls name to “Greg” in my phone and got the “I know Greg is a girl” line of questioning, she nearly cried. She had said the pill is making her crazy, I told her she’s was crazy and I think she’s doubting herself.

She said “why are you doing this, why can’t you just say Sophie I want to see other girls and I don’t wanna see you any more” that was my out, I didn’t take it because I like the companionship and having something there she lives close enough to be at my place in 15 mins and she treats me like a king.

However this relationship is running it’s course sadly, I need something exotic and exciting. I need new plates.
congratz your plate is empty shell with boring personality like 80% of human beings
 

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so interesting, this girl is treating you with respect and valuing you as a person and you are not attracted to her, but with people like Sarah who's all drama, all push pull you're heavily attracted and pine to invest yourself in someone like that
 
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so interesting, this girl is treating you with respect and valuing you as a person and you are not attracted to her, but with people like Sarah who's all drama all push pole you're heavily attracted to that and invest yourself or pine to invest yourself in someone like that
he likes to be disrespected by wamen
 

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he likes to be disrespected by wamen
Maybe....

I'm not trying to sound disrespectful but if I recall correctly something went on with his mother and she left him at an early age, if I recall she passed away, there might be an element Of fear of intimacy and fear of being vulnerable with women that has him on this pattern. Because the most important woman in his life left him at a tender age when he really needed her
 

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Maybe....

I'm not trying to sound disrespectful but if I recall correctly something went on with his mother and she left him at an early age, if I recall she passed away, there might be an element Of fear of intimacy and fear of being vulnerable with women that has him on this pattern. Because the most important woman in his life left him at a tender age when he really needed her
yeah that could be source of murkserious' issues


However im sure 'uncertainty' and 'fear' is what creates attraction

if you know she will never leave you, and all you do with her is sex, then attraction passes really quick
 

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Her Vagina stinks.. Bit of a deal breaker for me..

I wouldn't ever be able to go down on that chick and occasionally I do enjoy eating puzzy!

I don't know man.. I have been in your situation before.. I lost attraction for her, and resorted to faking the orgasms lol

Eventually I moved on!
 

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so interesting, this girl is treating you with respect and valuing you as a person and you are not attracted to her, but with people like Sarah who's all drama, all push pull you're heavily attracted and pine to invest yourself in someone like that
Just like a silly "girl"
 

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Just like a silly "girl"
Agreed. Unlike what is preached here ad nauseum, this type of behavior is NOT limited to females. It happens all the time with both sexes. However, here, this behavior is specifically assigned, and used to vilify, only women (as opposed to being understood as "this can be someones hang up")
 
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