"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just got "stood up" tonight!!

basbhat

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Hey guys,

I had "tentative" plans w/ a girl I work with and she just called me to cancel. Technically, we didn't have a date, but plans to get together, so maybe I should relax, but still...you know how it goes

Quick recap:Work with her, don't ever see her there though(am leaving in a couple of weeks as well...will prob not see her there due to diff. sched), 2 weeks ago went out and had fun, went to her house that night, I could have done whatever I wanted w/her but didn't due to her drunkeness, left next morn and said I would see her at work, saw her 5 days later, flirted more, said we should hang again, she invited me out again, I said no(didn't feel like it), she also texted me a couple of times, didn't respond to the last one..called her past wed(bout 3 days after last seeing her), left short message, no response from her, called once more yesterday, talked to her about goin out(she always parties on Sun night), said she wasn't goin out, but would Mon(tonight) in all probability, told her to call me, she called me tonight and said she was tired and had to work in the morn(called at 7:45, works in morn @10:30), so she said maybe well hang wed, or she'll call me when shes doing something fun, or vice versa, to which I replied, "I"m always doing something fun" , left it open ended, and said bye.....

Sorry for the structure, but did not want to make this too long.....Any analysis guys? Personally, I feel I've handled everything well to this point and have done nothing wrong. So why the cancellation?

Part of me feels she calculated this move for some reason, part of me feels she is a AW, and the smallest part of me feels she is not too interested(other guys, or whatever). But I do feel she is into me.

Whatever the reason, I am turning away from her and probably will not call her again. I've been confindent, funny, and somewhat of a challenge. For her to take this action, it feels like a slap in the face. Oh well!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Alphathree

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I give you a 75% chance that you should take her words at face value, based on the fact that you seem to have not screwed it up too badly.
 

TxCowboy

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all I had to do was read the first sentence ....

You ever seen Hitch ? - YOU have to cancel the first date ! Dont let her beat u to it .... kinda like a card game
 

basbhat

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Well, I thought I kinda turned her down first, but what the hell....she cancelled first. So she was following some kind of rule or something? As for the bad day comment, I had a good day!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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