"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Just got "stood up" tonight!!

basbhat

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Hey guys,

I had "tentative" plans w/ a girl I work with and she just called me to cancel. Technically, we didn't have a date, but plans to get together, so maybe I should relax, but still...you know how it goes

Quick recap:Work with her, don't ever see her there though(am leaving in a couple of weeks as well...will prob not see her there due to diff. sched), 2 weeks ago went out and had fun, went to her house that night, I could have done whatever I wanted w/her but didn't due to her drunkeness, left next morn and said I would see her at work, saw her 5 days later, flirted more, said we should hang again, she invited me out again, I said no(didn't feel like it), she also texted me a couple of times, didn't respond to the last one..called her past wed(bout 3 days after last seeing her), left short message, no response from her, called once more yesterday, talked to her about goin out(she always parties on Sun night), said she wasn't goin out, but would Mon(tonight) in all probability, told her to call me, she called me tonight and said she was tired and had to work in the morn(called at 7:45, works in morn @10:30), so she said maybe well hang wed, or she'll call me when shes doing something fun, or vice versa, to which I replied, "I"m always doing something fun" , left it open ended, and said bye.....

Sorry for the structure, but did not want to make this too long.....Any analysis guys? Personally, I feel I've handled everything well to this point and have done nothing wrong. So why the cancellation?

Part of me feels she calculated this move for some reason, part of me feels she is a AW, and the smallest part of me feels she is not too interested(other guys, or whatever). But I do feel she is into me.

Whatever the reason, I am turning away from her and probably will not call her again. I've been confindent, funny, and somewhat of a challenge. For her to take this action, it feels like a slap in the face. Oh well!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Alphathree

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I give you a 75% chance that you should take her words at face value, based on the fact that you seem to have not screwed it up too badly.
 

TxCowboy

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all I had to do was read the first sentence ....

You ever seen Hitch ? - YOU have to cancel the first date ! Dont let her beat u to it .... kinda like a card game
 

basbhat

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Well, I thought I kinda turned her down first, but what the hell....she cancelled first. So she was following some kind of rule or something? As for the bad day comment, I had a good day!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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