"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Just dumped my gf

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We are apart at the moment due to her having to spend 2 weeks in South America for her work. I find out from her that her and her girl work friends had some drinks and then went out to a Tango dancing club (very touristy place) and that she was learning to Tango dance with other men (not instructors, but random guys).

So I broke up with her.

Did I do the right thing?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Starwolf

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she's probably not marriage material as she's still looking to have some fun with other men..

I would not have dumped her immediately... instead keep my eyes open and let her know I don't approve of that sh!t.

if she objects and still thinks she should be able to go out with her friends and dance with other guys! Then I move on or stop taking the relationship serious.
 

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I thought you weren't meant to call womens bad behaviour out? But instead use ACTIONS to demonstrate when they have disrespected the relationship? ie. withdrawing attention or walking away.
 

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Starwolf said:
she's probably not marriage material as she's still looking to have some fun with other men..

I would not have dumped her immediately... instead keep my eyes open and let her know I don't approve of that sh!t.

if she objects and still thinks she should be able to go out with her friends and dance with other guys! Then I move on or stop taking the relationship serious.
a ticking time bomb at that point
 

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I can see that being appropriate in the early stages. like a first or second date or when they flake on you... u don't waste time on that.

But when in a LTR you have invested some time.. u r taking it serious so calling them out on certain behavior is needed to set your frame and make your boundaries clear.

Don't try to control her or something. Just make sure she knows what you are about and that you will move on if she does not like it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Starwolf

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Dhoulmagus said:
a ticking time bomb at that point

Maybe so, but it could have been the OP's fault for not setting the right frame.


have you ever heard some women say to their friends after seeing some crazy sh!t "Oh, my man would never let me do that" or something similar.

it's because they know the BF doesn't tolerate Sh!t that is out of line.
 

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Technics said:
I thought you weren't meant to call womens bad behaviour out? But instead use ACTIONS to demonstrate when they have disrespected the relationship? ie. withdrawing attention or walking away.
You have to call them out bro, otherwise she'll think she is dealing with an aloof guy who doesn't care about anything.

The easiest thing to do is to walk away, you have to deal with it straight on. I wouldn't have broken up with her though, you are given away free sex. Would have just kept her on the side since she has just given you the heads up she is not serious girlfriend material. :rolleyes:
 

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Yup. You did the right thing. Best believe she was grinding on them and rubbing her body all over them.
 
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