"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Just dumped my gf

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We are apart at the moment due to her having to spend 2 weeks in South America for her work. I find out from her that her and her girl work friends had some drinks and then went out to a Tango dancing club (very touristy place) and that she was learning to Tango dance with other men (not instructors, but random guys).

So I broke up with her.

Did I do the right thing?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Starwolf

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she's probably not marriage material as she's still looking to have some fun with other men..

I would not have dumped her immediately... instead keep my eyes open and let her know I don't approve of that sh!t.

if she objects and still thinks she should be able to go out with her friends and dance with other guys! Then I move on or stop taking the relationship serious.
 

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I thought you weren't meant to call womens bad behaviour out? But instead use ACTIONS to demonstrate when they have disrespected the relationship? ie. withdrawing attention or walking away.
 

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Starwolf said:
she's probably not marriage material as she's still looking to have some fun with other men..

I would not have dumped her immediately... instead keep my eyes open and let her know I don't approve of that sh!t.

if she objects and still thinks she should be able to go out with her friends and dance with other guys! Then I move on or stop taking the relationship serious.
a ticking time bomb at that point
 

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I can see that being appropriate in the early stages. like a first or second date or when they flake on you... u don't waste time on that.

But when in a LTR you have invested some time.. u r taking it serious so calling them out on certain behavior is needed to set your frame and make your boundaries clear.

Don't try to control her or something. Just make sure she knows what you are about and that you will move on if she does not like it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Starwolf

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Dhoulmagus said:
a ticking time bomb at that point

Maybe so, but it could have been the OP's fault for not setting the right frame.


have you ever heard some women say to their friends after seeing some crazy sh!t "Oh, my man would never let me do that" or something similar.

it's because they know the BF doesn't tolerate Sh!t that is out of line.
 

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Technics said:
I thought you weren't meant to call womens bad behaviour out? But instead use ACTIONS to demonstrate when they have disrespected the relationship? ie. withdrawing attention or walking away.
You have to call them out bro, otherwise she'll think she is dealing with an aloof guy who doesn't care about anything.

The easiest thing to do is to walk away, you have to deal with it straight on. I wouldn't have broken up with her though, you are given away free sex. Would have just kept her on the side since she has just given you the heads up she is not serious girlfriend material. :rolleyes:
 

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Yup. You did the right thing. Best believe she was grinding on them and rubbing her body all over them.
 
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