I've never had much success with girls. I'm ok looking, in good shape, an ok guy ect and I've always attributed not getting laid to me not having the balls to approach. This semester I finally "manned up" and have been approaching a lot of women and taking a lot of risks....and still nothing. I see uglier and more annoying people then me getting hooked up and it just doesn't happen for me for some reason. I naturally have a **** kind of personality (old-fashioned irish male type) but I'm not sure what else I could do differently.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Just dont know what the problem is
- Thread starter SamMalone
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
i kind of disagree with you, if you become friends with them, then you're in the friendzone. so getting laid of any sort is out of the question... i'm in the friendzone with this girl, and trust me, its hard to get out! what do you guys think?Leporello said:It's not enough to just 'approach'; usually you actually have to be friends with them. How's that going?
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they say kino & sexual undertones will abolish the friendzone. I don't know if this is the truth.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Instead of 'friends' I should've said 'friendly'. Point is, they have to be comfortable with going out and doing stuff with you, otherwise you're stuck.yama600rr said:i kind of disagree with you, if you become friends with them, then you're in the friendzone. so getting laid of any sort is out of the question... i'm in the friendzone with this girl, and trust me, its hard to get out! what do you guys think?
tell us how you approach exactly.SamMalone said:I've never had much success with girls. I'm ok looking, in good shape, an ok guy ect and I've always attributed not getting laid to me not having the balls to approach. This semester I finally "manned up" and have been approaching a lot of women and taking a lot of risks....and still nothing. I see uglier and more annoying people then me getting hooked up and it just doesn't happen for me for some reason. I naturally have a **** kind of personality (old-fashioned irish male type) but I'm not sure what else I could do differently.
I was just like you in college and what turned it around for me was just getting the attitude that I didn't give a ****. It still applies to me today in fact. If I am worried about impressing some girl or meeting someone, I always clam up and come off really poorly. Just go into it just trying to have fun and whatever happens you are cool with it. Just don't seem desperate. Girls can smell that a mile away. If you can take spring break in costa rica and have model-quality chicks begging for you , that would help too. It certainly did for me back in the day. It's all about confidence. Good luck.