I've never had much success with girls. I'm ok looking, in good shape, an ok guy ect and I've always attributed not getting laid to me not having the balls to approach. This semester I finally "manned up" and have been approaching a lot of women and taking a lot of risks....and still nothing. I see uglier and more annoying people then me getting hooked up and it just doesn't happen for me for some reason. I naturally have a **** kind of personality (old-fashioned irish male type) but I'm not sure what else I could do differently.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Just dont know what the problem is
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
i kind of disagree with you, if you become friends with them, then you're in the friendzone. so getting laid of any sort is out of the question... i'm in the friendzone with this girl, and trust me, its hard to get out! what do you guys think?Leporello said:It's not enough to just 'approach'; usually you actually have to be friends with them. How's that going?
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they say kino & sexual undertones will abolish the friendzone. I don't know if this is the truth.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Instead of 'friends' I should've said 'friendly'. Point is, they have to be comfortable with going out and doing stuff with you, otherwise you're stuck.yama600rr said:i kind of disagree with you, if you become friends with them, then you're in the friendzone. so getting laid of any sort is out of the question... i'm in the friendzone with this girl, and trust me, its hard to get out! what do you guys think?
tell us how you approach exactly.SamMalone said:I've never had much success with girls. I'm ok looking, in good shape, an ok guy ect and I've always attributed not getting laid to me not having the balls to approach. This semester I finally "manned up" and have been approaching a lot of women and taking a lot of risks....and still nothing. I see uglier and more annoying people then me getting hooked up and it just doesn't happen for me for some reason. I naturally have a **** kind of personality (old-fashioned irish male type) but I'm not sure what else I could do differently.
I was just like you in college and what turned it around for me was just getting the attitude that I didn't give a ****. It still applies to me today in fact. If I am worried about impressing some girl or meeting someone, I always clam up and come off really poorly. Just go into it just trying to have fun and whatever happens you are cool with it. Just don't seem desperate. Girls can smell that a mile away. If you can take spring break in costa rica and have model-quality chicks begging for you , that would help too. It certainly did for me back in the day. It's all about confidence. Good luck.