I've never had much success with girls. I'm ok looking, in good shape, an ok guy ect and I've always attributed not getting laid to me not having the balls to approach. This semester I finally "manned up" and have been approaching a lot of women and taking a lot of risks....and still nothing. I see uglier and more annoying people then me getting hooked up and it just doesn't happen for me for some reason. I naturally have a **** kind of personality (old-fashioned irish male type) but I'm not sure what else I could do differently.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Just dont know what the problem is
- Thread starter SamMalone
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
i kind of disagree with you, if you become friends with them, then you're in the friendzone. so getting laid of any sort is out of the question... i'm in the friendzone with this girl, and trust me, its hard to get out! what do you guys think?Leporello said:It's not enough to just 'approach'; usually you actually have to be friends with them. How's that going?
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they say kino & sexual undertones will abolish the friendzone. I don't know if this is the truth.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Instead of 'friends' I should've said 'friendly'. Point is, they have to be comfortable with going out and doing stuff with you, otherwise you're stuck.yama600rr said:i kind of disagree with you, if you become friends with them, then you're in the friendzone. so getting laid of any sort is out of the question... i'm in the friendzone with this girl, and trust me, its hard to get out! what do you guys think?
tell us how you approach exactly.SamMalone said:I've never had much success with girls. I'm ok looking, in good shape, an ok guy ect and I've always attributed not getting laid to me not having the balls to approach. This semester I finally "manned up" and have been approaching a lot of women and taking a lot of risks....and still nothing. I see uglier and more annoying people then me getting hooked up and it just doesn't happen for me for some reason. I naturally have a **** kind of personality (old-fashioned irish male type) but I'm not sure what else I could do differently.
I was just like you in college and what turned it around for me was just getting the attitude that I didn't give a ****. It still applies to me today in fact. If I am worried about impressing some girl or meeting someone, I always clam up and come off really poorly. Just go into it just trying to have fun and whatever happens you are cool with it. Just don't seem desperate. Girls can smell that a mile away. If you can take spring break in costa rica and have model-quality chicks begging for you , that would help too. It certainly did for me back in the day. It's all about confidence. Good luck.