"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Just deleted my facebook
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Who Dares Win
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A lot of guys screw up because they upolad their WoW record on fb or have stupid friends loading stupid things in their board, we all agree that stuff like this its not what makes a man but go explain it to girls surfing your board..
The very thing - thinking about fb and its affect on your social life is a bit of over-analyzing, and it seems to me it's just a desperate try to mask the true reasons for your lonliness.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Of course it affects your social life--it's a social networking siteNicholas said:
You know how many friendships are started/ended, relationships started/ended, hookups started/ended thanks to facebook? This is the world we live in now.
Anyway, I expected different responses in this thread but i guess i'll be the first to congratulate you. i deleted mine a few years ago and have no regrets. if you want to reach me, you have my number. also flakes are less of a problem because chicks aren't able to view my profile at any time and get their fix. want your fix? call me and we'll set something up
you also avoid facebook drama which, when dealing with people my age, is always a problem. a sad problem, but a problem nonetheless
I never said it has no effect, but it's not necessairly good or bad. It's up to you how you use it. You can use it or not, but neither of those two ways is generaly the right way. It's just a personal preference. CheersMisterD said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
For example: How creepy is it for a workplace to ask for your facebook account's password? U.S. government agencies do it.
On top of that, so much is coordinated through it now that deleting it would be shooting myself in the foot socially as I'd never know what's going on until after the fact. Parties and other events are mostly promoted on there nowadays and invites sent out via Facebook, few are even going to think to call that one guy who doesn't have Facebook and let him know, if they even remember.
Victory Unlimited
Master Don Juan
I'm not totally sure since the recent changes, but isn't there still a setting on it that's called "Only Me"? If so, this should allow you to block everybody from seeing your info but you (and of course the CIA, FBI, Google head honchos, and a variety of other "Big Brother" type organizations...lol)
I know of quite a few guys who only have a Facebook page to post up one or two pics, an email address, and the most basic----but SPARSE information. For them, they just use it to establish a "presence" on the site----but not as a platform of communication itself.
This tactic works pretty well for me and for a lot of other guys.
But now, if guys are using it to "E-Stalk" old girlfriends, or if guys are obsessed with checking it every 5 minutes, then having a Facebook page probably isn't a good idea for them to have at all.
As Roissy/Chateau/Heartiste is emphasizing yet again in his latest post, pre-selection is the number one most powerful tool in a player's arsenal. Unless you have female groupies following you around, I've become convinced that facebook is the best platform for you to show off. Yes, you can call it shallow since it is. But then again, we are here to look at how to increase our chances with women, not to philosophize about metaphysics. When you think about it, facebook gives everyone their 5 seconds of fame. That's why pple are constantly posting pictures and retarded comments on it, for the desperate hope that somebody else will give them a "like".
Pathetic, I know, but when you use it to your advantage it will help your game grow exponentially. And here we go back to pre-selection. The vast majority of my pics on fb are either with hot chicks (exes, random hookups, even random girls) or with my boys having a good time (partying, Vegas, on boats, at the beach, surfing). I'm not posting every 5 minutes, but when I do, the first 10 comments are from hot chicks. If anyone posts something on my wall I don't like, i take it off, be it a comment or a photo of me that looks retarded.
Does this work? I can certainly vouch for it. Recently a girl I've been seeing has posted a bunch of pics of us at a wedding. Now you bet she was looking off the hook, got dolled out for 2 hours before we went to the event. The same day the pics were up, three other girls texted me out of the blue with some variant of "hey, we haven't hang out in a while, we should do something this week."
With a very minimal effort on your part, you can get great results from fb.
coochieman
Don Juan
GOOD MOVE, BROTHER. No doubt about it, [although restrictions and sparse info while keeping your account is almost as good if you're too ***** to delete yours]. Facebook is nothing but a platform for extreme foolin' and attention seekin'........
A player is a player, he's good and everybody knows it. Whether or not he's got a Facebook account or not, so fucck all that crap of social proofin' and showin' off.....
Mystery might be only a tiny pre-requisite regarding the game as a whole, but fucck yeah its mandatory!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
This is pretty sad.drak_ool said:
Packers2010
Master Don Juan
I have come to realize facebook is bad for me.
dutchmaster
Senior Don Juan
Of course gaming in person is more effective, and funner. But if you have such a weapon at your disposal then why not?